Hi Neets, and welcome to the site
The time around diagnosis is definitely one of the hardest times with MS, even if we are expecting it. We go through all sorts of emotions and can be hard work to be around, but in the end, most of us learn to accept it and move on. It can take a while though, so you have to be a bit patient, and not give yourself too hard a time.
One of the things that can help is talking about it all. If you don’t have someone you can talk to openly, then you could ask your GP to refer you to a counsellor or you can see if there is a MS Therapy Centre near you that offers counselling. I saw a counsellor early on and it really helped me to come to terms with things.
One of the other things that can be important to do is to give your husband the chance to speak openly with you too (if he wants to, and is ready to). He’s probably pretty scared too, but may not want to share things with you because he doesn’t want to add to your problems. If you’re also not talking to him because you don’t want to worry or upset him, then all that happens is that neither of you shares, and everything gets bottled up - not a great idea.
Hearing the words “multiple sclerosis” is often really scary because we don’t actually know much about it. When you’re ready, you could download some booklets about MS from this site and from the MS Trust website. It is really important to remember something when you read about MS though - it is massively variable! No one gets everything, and although some of the symptoms we get may be very difficult, others may be very mild, and much of what we read about may never happen to us. Learning to accept that unpredictability is one of the biggest lessons we have to learn. Living for now. Planning for the future, but accepting that we may have to change and adapt those plans. Letting go of our fears - because all they will do is stop us from enjoying our lives now. These are some of the things I have learned anyway. Your approach may be different. And that’s fine - after all we are all different, just like our MS is all different.
Final thing on steroids. Basically they reduce inflammation at the site of active lesion and therefore speed up the time until the current attack finishes. How well they work varies a lot: anything from brilliant to not at all. If they work, you should find your symptoms start to improve. They stay in your system for weeks so any improvement can take a while to show.
Ah, I lied… Now the final thing. It is not your fault. You did nothing wrong. It is not your responsibility to make things better for your husband and son. Be kind to yourself. It is not your fault.