on wednesday’s for my weekly outing to the office, which i have just about recovered from today and legs arent as weak and my trip to sainsburys on a sat morning for the weekly shop, again which takes till tues for my legs to recover, the rest of my week has been spent at home in my bedroom working from home, hubby has suggested he does the shopping with our daughter instead to save my legs but im reluctant to give up this role, he does everything else without question or asking, am i being selfish to everyone else clinging on when this one task renders me useless for most of weekend or shall i give in, hubby is grateful for me still managing to work full time to help him support the family and thinks thats enough stress for me, my question is what would you do ?
It’s a tricky one isn’t it? I’ve always said that while I can I will but sometimes enough is enough. My transition to a wheelchair was gradual. I still made the effort to walk but not in supermarket marathons like the weekly shop. I can see the value of playing one’s part in the family routine because there is a danger of feeling left out which can be one step on the road of negativity.
Supermarkets usually have wheelchairs; can you all go as a family. I know it’s a big step (not a step at all) to actually sit in one and be pushed around but once you’re in, think of the energy you’re saving and you still get a say in the contents of the trolley. Personally, I always allow one or two impulse buys to treat myself.
Hi, Steve’s advice is good and from what have said you already do loads, working to support your family. It’s not giving up to allow them to do more to help you, it shows how much they appreciate you. It’s nice that your husband is suggesting that he does the shop. Have you thought about doing a online shop? I do most of my shopping on line and Lee picks up extra things if we run out. Perhaps like Steve said you could use one of the stores wheelchairs or scooters. Michelle and Frazer xx
got a wheelchair on order but planning to use as little as possible, my plan is to keep going as long as possible, reluctant for hubby to get involved in the weekly shop as he does everything else “hes such a martyr” this is my domain ha ha ha its so hard to let go
I still work part time ( three days a week) but I find going out on any activity very tiring and I feel it for days after. Bought a wheelchair last year but still don’t use it very much.
I do a click and collect shop. I order online and hubby picks it up. Some how it still makes me feel I have some control.
Its hubbies 60th birthday next week and all the family are going to a cottage for a few days to celebrate and the wheelie is coming too. I’m determined it’s not going to stay in the boot.
Definitely agree with the posters who have recommended shopping on line for home delivery or click and collect. I have recently changed my routine to doing this about 4 shops out of 5 and the difference is brilliant. I resisted doing this for ages because I thought it was good for me to get out - even to the flaming supermarket! It isn’t. There are much better ways to use my limited stores of time AND energy than going to Tesco. As the poet said “Getting and spending we lay waste our powers” That goes double with MS!
The other advantage is I forget fewer things when I make an order online. My memory is rubbish and there was never a time when a supermarket shop got me everything I needed so there were always lots of times when I had to pop out for missing items which is a sure fire way to spend more as well as being completely kn*****ing. What I do now is book an order for the end of the week on Monday and add to it/change it through the week as things come to mind. The basics are usually the same from week to week but the bits and bobs do vary - I can change an order until late the night before delivery.