My partner has MS. We have known each other for a long time, but although we have ‘history’ we only got together recently. He was diagnosed with MS a few years before that, and so I am still to learn a lot about it all.
Things like…
(1) Don’t nag him about going for treatment, because although it might worry me that he isn’t getting it, all I am ultimately doing is reminding him that he has it!
(2) Don’t second guess every burst of pins and needles - they’re not all relapses waiting to happen and they stress me out a lot more than they do him! (Note to self, refer to (1)! )
… The list goes on, and I am continuously adding to it, and as said, always learning… But the thing is, I am going through a really tough time in myself; I have just been made redundant, and I think that I could be pregnant; so the thought of a relapse being even the remotest possibility scares the living daylights out of me - Get a part time job, or any job at least until too pregnant to work, take 2 days off to give birth, return tp work and keep our house - irrational yes, but frightening to me being new to all of this!
With the redundancy came a bit of a bout of depression for me too I’m afraid. Which brings me to the main reason for joining this forum - how do I keep supporting him, and more importantly cope with his mood swings without reacting badly, when I am exhausted, worried, and whatever it is I’ve been feeling lately…?!
Advice and thoughts welcome from anyone! Thanks