hi, new here. someone i love has MS. this is me saying hello.

My loved one has the most incredible attitude towards everything in life, he is a fighter, he is always joking , he doesnt like to complain. These are good points … But it makes it a little more difficult for me to know what kind of support / help i can give him.

And sometimes i remember he may be in pain, and i feel powerless/useless to help, all i can do is stop going on about myself and just focus on him, show him gentleness… I think this helps but im not sure.

I try to remember that my problems are tiny compared to what he faces every day, and i try to remind him of how strong he is.

I try to convince him of my love for his very spirit, that which the disease cannot touch unless he gets downhearted. His spirit / soul / essence / whatever can be healthy even while his body is sick.

What else can i do?

Thank you for your help!

Hi, my hubby of 42 years, is my main carer. he does a wonderful job, but he also has rheumatoid arthritis.

What I always do is to remember that he also has physical problems.

The thing I am trying to say is that although your fella has the serious condition, he will also be capable of concern for your well being too.

You sound a very loving and considerate person, but do remember you are important too.

Afterall, if the carers in this world are taken ill, then where would us carees be?

Just carry on doing what you are doing, yeh?

luv Pollx

Hi Warrior Princess,

We spoke before, I am reading a book and I suddenly realised I have to stop and tell you about this.

Please read

There are many success stories including someone close to me- he has not have any relapse in two years.

This one I have mentioned to you before -

There is a retreat here in Melbourne

-lots of love-