My loved one has the most incredible attitude towards everything in life, he is a fighter, he is always joking , he doesnt like to complain. These are good points … But it makes it a little more difficult for me to know what kind of support / help i can give him.
And sometimes i remember he may be in pain, and i feel powerless/useless to help, all i can do is stop going on about myself and just focus on him, show him gentleness… I think this helps but im not sure.
I try to remember that my problems are tiny compared to what he faces every day, and i try to remind him of how strong he is.
I try to convince him of my love for his very spirit, that which the disease cannot touch unless he gets downhearted. His spirit / soul / essence / whatever can be healthy even while his body is sick.