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HELP no where to turn

Hi All,

I am at my wits end and dont know what to do, my home life is so poor, my wife dont give a crap but if i leave i am deemed as intentionally homeless and will be told get stuffed by local council.

I have no way out and no help, I am at the point of just giving up. can anyone point me in right direction or been in similar situation?

Hi Spacejammed So sorry to hear your having a rough time, have you no family or friends you can turn to? Is there no way of sitting down with your wife and talking things through? Dont give up hope there is always someone that can help, what about ringing the MS helpline? I do hope you can sort something out, there’s no feeling like the feeling of feeling alone, Sending you ((((hugs)))) to help you along the way. Sue

This doesnt sound great. My ex wife wanted us to live separate lives in the same house when i fell ill but that wouldn’t have worked for me. I was lucky as I was able to move in with my brother for a while but understand it is so difficult when you cant afford to support 2 homes. I sold the family home and my children moved into a property partialy funded by the state. I now live nearby but use my pension to pay the rent. As we speak my sons are with me and will be until sundat night. Not ideal, I hope you find your own solution. All the best Peter

I don’t know your area but when my neighbours split up a couple of yrs ago, he kept the house and she was rehomed. It might be worth contacting your local council or housing association, the worst try can satisfy no. Good luck x

If you are disabled your local council should categorise you as vulnerable and have to re-home you.

Go to your nearest CAB. They help with all sorts of issues and will be able to advise you on your rights and also on housing.

hold on! why should this guy feel he has to move out and cope with the resulting problems? Perhaps the wife should be looking for somewhere else to live!

It depends if there are children involved as children should not have to move out of the family home - but if there’s no children involved I’d agree why should you be the one to have to move out - its difficult to pass comment without knowing these finer details. I think you should approach your local social services or CAB and ask what your options would be as they do have a responsibility to house vulnerable people and with MS we are certainly vulnerable. Other that that perhaps Relate could help patch up your marriage as your wife could be greiving for the person you were and not the person with MS - its such a difficult disease and it impacts on all the family in different and often difficult ways.

I hope you get something sorted soon so that you can be in a happier place

(((((BIG HUGS)))) Mary

SO SORRY BUD BIN THER 2 TIMES LOST SO MUTH … BUT IF SHE DONT WONT YOU PICK A ARGUMENT THAT YOU KNOW THAT SHE BE WILL SO SO PISST OFF WITH YOU KNOW THE ONE ?? … SHE WILL KICK YOUR ASS OUT … HAY YOU GOT MS MATE ? SOCICL WORKER WILL HAVE TO PLACE IN A SAFE AND SECURE PLACE …NB TEL THEM YOU HAVE NO FAMILY TO GO AN LIVE WITH … REMEBR GROUND FLOUR FLAT BUNGALUO . LIFE IS TO SHORT BUD … PHIL

you should go to social services or the CAB i work there, and we have a housing officer who comes in ever friday and what he doesnt know about housing isnt worth knowing, also maybe relate your wife maybe is grieving her change of circumstances also , i have said to hubby in a number of occassions that he could leave and i would not hold it against him he gets anger and says dont be stupid but he also has on occassions said we cant go on certain holidays because of my MS, but in this case MS is the champion as I didnt like this type of holiday anyway,

take care

trish