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Help in the home ?

Good morning All,

it looks like I am coming out of a long term relationship

and am facing the prospect of living alone for the first time

since being diagnosed ( SPMS). I work full time and would need some

help domestically and perhaps occasional cooking etc.

I don’t know where to start to try and find the help I need so any suggestions

would be much appreciated.

I am able to pay for this help.

I have a cleaner - who I found by asking friends to recommend someone. Also, I have an evening meal cooked and delivered twice a week. This is done by a friend but I pay her for it - she cooks double the amount that she would normally do to feed her family and I get half. Before I thought of asking my friend, I was going to advertise on the noticeboard at our local supermarket, for someone to cook and deliver.

Do you have local friends? The best way to work out what help you need and what you might be able to find (these things might be quite different, but you need to be flexible) is to talk it through, preferably with women who live near to you and might have ideas and networks that can help.

Thanks for your reply.

Hello,

Suspect it is not as simple as it seems. If you are working then you might not know what is available locally and possibly not that many friends. Try putting questions into Google and also look in free local magazines that come in through your letterbox.

Provided you live in a town or city then there are bound to be people who run a cook-for-you business. Getting cleaners is not always as easy as it seems. Once again talk to anyone you know or put an advert up in your local library.

The local library is quite a good source of information about all sorts of things. If you are open about the MS then people at work might be able to point you to the right sort of people. Word of mouth is always a good reference.

Hope everything pans out for you

Patrick

Have you got anything such as a ‘Help Scheme’ run by your local GP Surgery ? - they might be able to give you some pointers/recommendations. Maybe a ‘helping hands’ type of agency or small cleaning company? Depends where you live, I guess, but google is always a good help…

Not sure about placing an ad in the library/local supermarket - although the library could be a good source of information. If it was me I would feel rather vulnerable and wary of employing a stranger responding to an ad. If you do go down that route, please be cautious and ask for references and/or whether the person has a CRB /DBS.

Hope you soon get something sorted out.

Hugs,

H x

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Hello,

Suspect it is not as simple as it seems. If you are working then you might not know what is available locally and possibly not that many friends. Try putting questions into Google and also look in free local magazines that come in through your letterbox.

Provided you live in a town or city then there are bound to be people who run a cook-for-you business. Getting cleaners is not always as easy as it seems. Once again talk to anyone you know or put an advert up in your local library.

The local library is quite a good source of information about all sorts of things. If you are open about the MS then people at work might be able to point you to the right sort of people. Word of mouth is always a good reference.

Hope everything pans out for you

Patrick

Thanks very much for this reply Patrick.

Your dead right. I am self-employed so most of my time is at work, I don’t have a great deal of friends and am totally unaware of what help is available; I don’t even know who my neighbours are !

I take your point about being open with people at work, I need to be more so, as I am sure their will be some good advise here.

Thanks Again.

Regards

Mark

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Have you got anything such as a ‘Help Scheme’ run by your local GP Surgery ? - they might be able to give you some pointers/recommendations. Maybe a ‘helping hands’ type of agency or small cleaning company? Depends where you live, I guess, but google is always a good help…

Not sure about placing an ad in the library/local supermarket - although the library could be a good source of information. If it was me I would feel rather vulnerable and wary of employing a stranger responding to an ad. If you do go down that route, please be cautious and ask for references and/or whether the person has a CRB /DBS.

Hope you soon get something sorted out.

Hugs,

H x

Thanks for taking the time to reply H.

Seems sensible advise about the help schemes. I live in a place called Saltburn By The Sea, and google is worth a go.

I do agree with your reservations about local advertising. I am always reluctant to let strangers into my home, I have had difficulty in the past finding new tradesmen when my usual ones are busy.Thanks again for this useful advise.

Regards

Mark

hiya

is there a local time bank u could get access to?

its a community sharing of skills-brill idea!

ellie