I have been reading this thread, and I must say that it does all add up to your husband being a ^)%"£ of the first order. If you ever need reminding of why it is so important for you to raise yourself just that little bit more, and to complain, then just look in a mirror. It is you in there, and you are worth a hundred of ‘him’ and you owe it to that person in the mirror to escape. I know that you are fearful of ‘living in a home’, but my friend (who also has MS) thought EXACTLY the same, but now she is resident in a home the only regrets she now has is that she didn’t do it sooner. Her circumstances were different, but she is very, very happy there.
I have no experience or constructive advice to offer, but I wanted you to know that I’m rooting for you, and I hope that you can find the strength to get help to get out of this awful situation. ((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))
Big hugs to you and well done for taking the first step. Don’t be afraid to tell them how it really is, they are on your side and here to help you.We’re all here for you, good luck on Thursday,xxjo
Hiya…me again. I guess you are probably getting more and more nervous about tomorrow so just to remind you you still have a huge army of cyber support behind ,infront and all around you.
Once you start talking you will probably find it a huge relief. Just be honest and remember this IS the right thing to be doing.You do deserve to have all your needs met be they physical or emotional and ms should not prevent you from having a good quality of life.
Hi Just wanted to add my support to your army. We are here for you, lean on us as much as you can and need to. Be strong this will lead to a better life for you and you do deserve so much more than you have at the moment. Remember we are here for you, please let us know how you get on tomorrow. Love and huge (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
Thank you all for your continued support I cannot put into words how much I appreciate all your messages. I saw the Social Worker yesterday and I will be having carers in three times a day to begin with which can be increased when I feel ready. I have asked to think about it until Monday as to whether I want payments for me to pick my own or have the council’s own carers coming in. Not sure which to do, but it’s all ongoing now and I feel much better in myself knowing there will be someone coming in.
That sounds like a really positve meeting. Poll im sure would give you the ins and outs on what to do choosing carers from the being on the recieving end of it so to speak.
I hope it hasnt caused friction at home.
Well done for following it through and I hope its the start of a positve new way of life.
Well done for taking that first but huge step. I hope your family are ok with your decision. Good luck, keep us posted and remember we are here for you.
I would like to thank all of you who have supported me over the last couple of weeks. Unfortunately I will have to say goodbye to you all as things have taken a dramatic turn for the worse. Yesterday my husband lost his temper with our daughter and punched her and she is now in the local Domestic Abuse Unit and I will be going into a care home in the next couple of hours after the Police and Social Workers spent the afternoon here. Once again thank you for your help and goodbye and I wish you all the best your health can be with MS.
Look after yourself and good luck in your new home. So sorry for you and your daughter the way things have worked out. Keep strong and know that there are always people willing to listen and support you however they can Julia x
your husband sounds as if he is the ill one, lashed out at your daughter as you tried to gain some control of your circumstances…interesting, why is he so angry, thank god you are getting away from him, get rid off him for good, you have being unbelievably strong, keep it up, he disgusts me and probably so many others, take care of yourself and let others take care of you also, You and your children will come through this black episode much stronger and together.x
Good luck. I’m so sorry it has had to come to this but at least you and your children will be safe now. Please come back to us if you possibly can.We will always be here for you if need our support ((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))).