How do you deal with a relative who means well but is driving you nuts?
I have a very domineering uncle who’s become quite protective of me since my dad died back in January. He’s the kind who won’t take “no” for an answer, so every conversation with him turns into a mild argument.
He’s done some helpful things for me, and I don’t want to hurt his feelings or make him mad, but he’s starting to run roughshod over me and I’m reaching the boiling point.
The last straw was when he showed up today, with my aunt and mother, AFTER I’d told him over the phone that today was a bad day for me and I couldn’t do anything.
By the time they left 90 minutes later, he’d made the decision to come back in a week with his tractor, mower, and chainsaw and start clearing whatever he sees as useless junk. I’m going to have to shadow him non-stop to make sure he doesn’t destroy the things I want to keep (like wildflowers and raspberry brambles).
This is all going to be on his schedule, not mine, and it’s going to be extremely draining as I fight him every step of the way. We’ve already had several go-rounds as I’ve refused to let him mow my field, which is slowly filling with wildflowers and thistle.
Short of telling him to go away and not come back, how can I settle him down? My mother and aunt have both tried in vain, and I really don’t want to get in a shouting match over all this.