Today was a full day of appointments running between two hospitals and including a full MRI and been dreading it for a while. But I have a very good friend (so I thought) who insisted on coming with me.
My daughter, my daughter in law and another very dear friend also wanted to come but didnt want any of them taking the time of work.
so yesterday I call my friend who is suppose to come with me only to be told that she is going shopping and did I want to go with her . HHHMMMM. I have been in agony for months with my legs and feet and have been struggling to even get around the house let alone bloody shopping, this obviously dosent register with her??? so she has obviously forgotten about my appointments and her insisting to come with me. So now left to go alone first appointment at rheumatology at 1st hospital then a quick cab to another hospital for my hour and half MRI then another cab back to first hospital for xray and blood tests. Feeling shatterd angry and dissapointed with my so called friend. Taught me a lesson though. She called a litle while ago to see what I have been doing today. so sort of told what I had been doing in a not so nice way. I realise now that if events dont involve or benefit her then she isnt interested.
I never ask or expect anything from anyone but really didnt want to do today alone Am I wrong to be so angry
Kimbo No your not wrong to be so angry I would be the same. It always amazes me how people forget all you did/do for them when it’s not to their advantage. I have a friend exactly the same and what really pees me off is how much she puts on me, I’m sure she thinks because I look alright, that I am. I’d swap my hands and legs for hers anyday! You got to your appointments all be it on your own but good on you for making it known what should have happened today. De-stress and take care xx
You are fully justified in your feelings,but I think we’ve all experienced the same.I put peoples’ actions for the main part down to their mortality issues,even though MS is not fatal and affects everybody differently.They start thinking that it could be them and how would they cope.Their ignorance and inability to empathize leads them into the situation you’ve found yourself.I reckon you’re better off without them,which leaves you having to get organised to cope without them.Sounds like it won’t be difficult in her case
thanks everyone. Iv always been very independant some might even say stubborn and have big problems with asking for help of any kind, and in this case i didnt ask she insisted on coming.
I agree with Wb and Carole, we are all with you on this one, MS diagnosis is a life shaker for each of us and also for those around us, we learn who’s with us and who’s not and for me anyway, those who are “with me” I know now are fab, special and very reliable, those who are not, well who needs them!!!
yep, you find out who is a true pal and who isnt when the chips are down.
It does hurt and your anger is justified.
i wonder if your friend is too thick skinned to realise just how much she has hurt you.
Wait till she needs a friend. What goes around comes around…too true!
luv Pollx
ps, cant you get all your appointments changed so you just need to attend 1 hospital. All that to-ing and fro-ing is rediculous when precious energy is scarce.
yep, you find out who is a true pal and who isnt when the chips are down.
It does hurt and your anger is justified.
i wonder if your friend is too thick skinned to realise just how much she has hurt you.
Wait till she needs a friend. What goes around comes around…too true!
luv Pollx
ps, cant you get all your appointments changed so you just need to attend 1 hospital. All that to-ing and fro-ing is rediculous when precious energy is scarce.
luv Pollx
Hi Poll, thanks for your words. my neuro had reffered me to a Rheumatologist which is at UCH hospital a couple of miles away from the hospital for Neurology where I was having my MRI. It was just by chance that both appointments fell on the same day which i was quite pleased about as I travel quite far to get there. Just didnt expect to do it on my own, but hey ho as you said what goes around comes around. Hope your having a good weekend
True friends don’t let you down. I was very sorry to hear what happened to you. I’ve had ‘friends’ let me down before, they are now not my friends, but have found others that are true friends and you will to.
Yes, I have been let down badly by friends; especially when I was first diagnosed. At the time (I was only 17) I put a lot of this down to my age, but the biggest let down I had was with my father, as he told me I had ‘let him down’ by developing MS, and with that, he pooped off, never to be seen again - despite him only living three miles away. People who do not have MS seem to be a fragile lot, so I am never that surprised when they act like this. Take heart Kim as you are much stronger than they are.