Recently i have had the worse issues with this. I did do some reading and someone suggested GLYCERINE SUPPOSITORIES.
They are totally safe and easy to use. so well i mentioned it to my doctor and she said yes to go ahead as they were a natural way.
It has been a BLESSING really. In actually fact seemed to have helped me to go on my own more easily. They are gentle and not like normal suppositories this is totally natural.
I wont take meds for it as i dont want to train my digestive system to be lazy.
I do eat a lot of frut and veg lol, and now prunes, which do help as well. He really should not have pain in his right side, has this been checked by doctor?
you say he has had a few accidents not getting to the toilet? is that bowel or urine? I also would recommend he sees an incontinence nurse.
As to cooking for him. I cant say much my old man was a nightmare lol. I found it was just as easy to make what he wanted to eat. OR you could contact your social services adult team and see if he is elegible for meals on wheels. they are not like they were in the past. I have had them, the meals are not bad. OR there are a lot of companies now who sell frozen meals for people, like Cape & Hartley, Whiltshire Farms, and Oakhouse foods. all the meals are pretty good and not over priced.
Is it totally impossible for him to make his own meals or at least some?
You can buy a device to help him lift his leg up. I have one it wasnt expensive, and if i am tired i can use it to lift my leg up onto the bed. my trouble is its my left leg which isnt working right. Get referall to orthotics they may be able to fit him with a brace. I went but it was no use for me, as my brain literally wasnt telling my leg to lift up so my left leg was dragging along the ground and my strong right was supporting it. I try to keep my right side strong. HEY between us we have perfect sides of the body
I have electric wheelchair as i cant walk but a few metres, and a rollator in the house.
Has he got PIP?
Its kind of cool to read you have supported him through this for 13 years, but i will say one thing, he needs to learn also to support himself. I kind of let my husband do a lot of things for me when he was alive and suddenly he died in 2017 without warning, and it left me in a bit of a mess emotionally and physically. Now i try to do as much as i can on my own, i have had to support to this and my friend is always at the end of a phone if i need help. Hope that makes sense.
Also has he a careline or device to contact someone in an emergency if he falls? I have a phone careline and can use it anywhere inside and out.
I hope the above helps.
Oh and welcome. Sadly. xxx