I had to come on here to write as i feel like im at breaking point.
I will try to keep this short.
I’m undiagnosed ms, i suppose could say waiting for a 2nd attack for diagnosis (very frightened, scared i won’t have a normal life etc etc).
My mum & dad have been broken up since i was 7, im now 31 (female).
My dad has been diagnosed with altzimers only 68 but before he was diagnosed he was with a lady friend. She has pretty much lived with him before and after this diagnosis (about 3 years) but she does have her own home which she also tries to look after. My dad has got worse & cannot do anything for himself. I see my dad once a week and me and this lady friend cook a dinner and catch up. The situation has been getting harder for her so me and my sister have been trying to arrange for a carer to live with him and the lady friend of his to stay with him 3 times a week and the carer the rest. Anyway the lady friends family want her out of the situation altogether and she is now leaving tomorrrow morning…
Me and my sister are now trying to arrange urgent care to live in his home, going to cost £1600 a week. The care can’t come in until Sunday afternoon and she is leaving tomorrow morning. Me and my sister have to be with my dad when she just vanishes. It is going to be hell, he understands that she is going etc. I’m going to have to get my boyfriend to stay with my dad from 12 noon until 4pm on sunday when this care arrives, i can’t stay with him as this is breaking my heart. My dad is completely mobile and able bodied, he can eat move etc etc, but his mind and memory has gone, he doesnt even know how to make a cup of tea anymore.
On top of this my boyfriend got a call from his dad this morning that his grandad has died and my cat of 18 years old had to be put down yesterday, she had a fit.
I honestly don’t know how much more i can take.
I’m on here to vent, you don’t have to reply, i just need to let it all out.
As well as having this deep sorrow for my dad, i’m actually thinking because of all of this and his lady friend just getting up and leaving that he would be best if he wasn’t here anymore.
And at the same time as all of this i’m thinking is this all going to happen to me.