Hi Sennen
I think we all cope in different ways. I returned to the U.K. 5 years ago, having lived in the sunshine for 20 years. Only bought one large case of clothes with me, most are only suitable for the heat.
I weighed 5 stone, lost 3 stone over a period of 18 months, broken five bone in separate falls, the health service in the Canary Islands was in total collapse.
The wonderful national health spent several months sorting me out. Almost no red blood cells and weak as a kitten.
It took me a year & half to get back up to 8 stone and when finally I got my MS diagnosis, I celebrated, at least I didn’t have cancer.
My wardrobe was almost empty, so gradually I ferreted in Charity shops, the markets and cheap clothing stores. So now in order make the effort and face going out, I take time, (used to shower, dress etc. and be out of the door in 5 minutes) Now it takes about 2 hours for breakfast, shower or bath, dress etc. So my solution is to colour co-ordinate. I have purple days, fushia days, turquoise days, orange days, black & white days. Shoes, handbags, leggings, tops, baggy cardigans, earrings, sun glasses, hats, even my walking sticks, in fact the whole shebang. It is such an effort to get ready anyway, so I did it initially to cheer me up, but now strangers in town stop and chat as they had noticed that every time they see me, I have a different colour.
During the last six months my hands are too weak to hold a hairdryer, and have found a wonderful salon that only charges £9.90, so every 8 days or so I go to the hairdresser. (P.I.P. at last approved so I can afford it now) A few months ago I had some dark red highlights (in my grey hair) Only 11 foils, just to brighten me up a bit. The following month I had 11 in purple, then in turquoise and last week I had the same in bright fushia. I look like a rainbow.
It is unbelievable how many people stop me every time I’m out to ask me about it, surprisingly the majority are older than me (64) and want to try it too. Needless to say my hairdresser is happy with all of her new clients.
I know it sounds a bit crazy, but whatever clothes you wear it takes the same time and effort every morning and it makes me so much more cheerful. In January I found some cheap plastic ponchos on the internet for less than £4 each, so now my mobility scooter (and me) are covered in the same colour as my clothes when it rains.
I hope you soon find your mojo to discover small things to make you feel good about yourself - Take care - Mary x