I just feel so exhausted and tired and ratty all the time. I am always in some pain or the other it just seems to be never ending. I just want to scream. My 13 month old whinges all day long doesn’t eat or drink properly and never sleeps through the night. He wakes up 4-5 times in the night. I lose my patience with him and end up shouting at him. My inlaws play mind games and expect me to be there to do the cooking and cleaning all the time. I never get five minutes peace there is always someone there. My husband never goes out with me anymore he would rather sit in front of the telly. He lies to me about what he is doing that day in case i say i wana go out. I just feel so emotional fed up and tired all da time. I no longer want to make and effort with my husband or inlaws. I jus feel so alone. My MS keeps on playing up. I just feel useless
Hi Anon, You have my sincerest empathy in the situation in which you find yourself. Unfortunately the tensions which result from new babies and broken sleep can all take their toll with even the strongest of relationships, and that’s with people who have no added complications. Throw MS into the mix and this creates another tier to the already complicated situation. Lack of sleep and the stress it causes will undoubtedly be having an effect on your MS symptoms, which in turn affects your patience etc and the ability to take whatever new parenthood throws at you. I think the first step here is to look at you and your partner and try to sit down and address what issues you feel are affecting you both. This isn’t always easy to do when you are tired, and if he is working etc etc. maybe a third party to mediate might be an idea. Talking is really the only way forward here, between the two of you, and then you can take on the situation with parenthood, MS and the outlaws as a team, rather than a stressed out pair of individuals, striving for the same outcome but possibly pulling in very different directions. I hope you find some common ground and start to enjoy each other and the wee one very soon. Take care J x