Hi everyone, we were hopeful you might be able to help us understand what’s currently going on a bit more.
Our friend was finally diagnosed with MS in February this year - having had a relapse. This was suspected, but not confirmed. He was fairly cagey about telling us what was going on, and still plays down the illness very strongly. We know this is his choice, and respect that, so have tried to just carry on as normal - but obviously making allowances for mobility etc. Visiting him instead of going out and such if he was struggling.
He had another relapse soon after the one in February, but has - luckily - since seemed to go from strength to strength and physical symptoms are not evident any more (although this obviously does not mean they are not there!). However, our friendship group has noticed a massive personality change. He is now a lot more irritable, only likes to talk about specific topics (certain events from the past), and has been extremely irritable. We are now at a point where multiple people are now avoidinging him because of this, and how difficult they find things. He has no interest in anyone else’s lives, does not ask about such (even if asked “How are you?” he won’t ask back etc.), and gets extremely aggressive about certain - very conservative - opinions.
We’re all finding it very difficult as he’s a close friend who we want to be there for, but he’s not acting like the person we know right now. We’ve tried to make allowances because we can’t even begin to understand what he’s going through, but we’ve now started asking if maybe we could talk about something else, or just saying outright that we’re a little bit tired of talking about xyz. This is usually met by a lot of glaring and aggression, but we worry that if we don’t say anything we’re excusing the behaviour and it will continue.
Any insight, advice, or assistance would be greatly appreciated. We want to be there for our friend, but worry we’re doing things wrong, handling the situation badly, and upsetting him.