Hi Bob
I think’s it a good idea to take your wife with you. Not only will she provide an extra pair of eyes and ears, you will have someone to talk through what happens straightaway and that can be really helpful (unless you’re the sort to cogitate on stuff for ages first of course). It’s would be good to include her anyway - whatever happens, she’s affected to.
There are three main possibilities: you are diagnosed with MS, you are told that there is still insufficient evidence and that, until something new happens, you are still “probable MS” or you are told, no, it’s not MS.
If it’s not MS, then I guess the discussion will centre around why it isn’t, what it might be, if you need to see a different consultant, what other tests might be needed, etc.
If it’s probable MS, then I would recommend asking exactly why you are not being diagnosed with MS and to have this explained to you versus the McDonald criteria. Ask for this explanation to be put in writing - in the letter to your GP - so you have a formal record of it. I would also ask if the neuro will see you again and if you can have the contact details for an MS nurse so you can get advice re ongoing symptoms.
If it’s MS, then I think there are two things in particular that are important: contact details for an MS nurse and DMDs (disease modifying drugs - do you qualify?).
For all three options, take the opportunity to ask about help with any symptoms that you are struggling with and ask that the neuro puts any recommendations / prescription details in the letter to your GP (saves any hassle getting prescriptions from the GP).
Make a list and get your wife to remind you to use it! It is very easy to miss something!
What to do afterwards? That, I really can’t advise on - except perhaps to go with the flow and do whatever feels right at the time.
I hope it goes really well.
Karen x