What has anyone done about a abusive carer,Has anyone involved the police? Social work won’t help with most things only the basics. So how do you report them when you relay on them? I have no money as i pay for everything and am in alot of debt because of him.
I’m so sorry that you are experiencing this kind of treatment from somebody who is meant to be helping you.
Do they work for an agency, as you could put a complaint in that way and refuse to have them back. You could also involve your social worker, as o one should have to go through this day in and day out! It’s absolutely disgusting when you’re paying their wages. I hope things get sorted out.
My partner.
I’m so very sorry, can you get any help from family to move out of this situation? Have you tried the MS Society for some help with dealing with this ?
I dont have family only my daughter,My partner needs to ve given a stern telling off. He went completely ballistic at me because i needed to use my bathroom when he was in the bath and i dared to message him about this. Unfortunately for him i have a camera for my car and the noise triggered it so i have it recorded.He lies alot too.I should have phoned the police but i used all my energy to crawl to my scooter and leave. I broke my leg and can barely walk.
Oh I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this. Please phone the helpline for some advice . Please be careful and seek help, you shouldn’t have to go through this it’s not your fault.
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Sorry if this sounds blunt but is it time to spend a bit of time thinking about the long term? Do you see a future with your partner, is he ever going to make you happy, will he ever take proper care of you , is he just going to be an emotional and financial drain, emotional stress and anxiety is very probably making your MS worse ! What would you say to someone else if they were going through the same?
Time to take stock and consider your options!
I don’t want to be with him he’s pyscolocigaly and fanaticaly abused me for long enough. He won’t leave and threatens sucide if i make him or mention it. He has got slightly better in that regard but i am now receiving support . Took alot for me to talk to someone tbh.
I have tried he gives me heart palpitations and panic attacks when i try as he’s unstable and i only mention anything when im about to leave the house which isnt very often im not well enough to deal with him any more and avoid him and stay away from him as much as possible.
My stepdaughter ended up living with someone who was emotionally unstable and selfish. Threatened suicide if she chucked him out . Ended up with her calling the police who told him to leave and put restraining order on him. Needless to say and as reported by friends he didn’t commit suicide but found someone else to take him in. Even his brother had enough of all his emotional drama and blackmail and wouldn’t take him in
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These type of men are imature and need a kick up the arse. They didnt have discipline as children and i regret having him in my life as long as i have,I never put up with his crap when i wasn’t ill he is a nightmare of a man the only time i have had a similar person in my life was when i was a teenager. He has got away with so much and i never had him lifted because he has very unstable diabetes and was worried about them looking after him. Manipulated again ive realised.
And also i dont like how its insinuated its easy for people like myself who are very ill with multiple sclerosis and who are reliant on care from their abuser over the coarse of over 14 years to just get rid of them especially when you are a man and you are clearly capable of looking out for yourself . I am not and if it was that easy id have done it. So unless you know what its like to be abused most of your life give advise elsewhere because you don’t know me so please cast judgment elsewhere.
You are of course quite right I don’t know you at all and I apologise if I have offended you.