HI, I just want to say that I hope that you speek with your wife aboute this, how you feel, and not in the heat of the moment when she “accuses” you of forgeting, but another time, a good moment, a moment when you both can talk and let your hearts out(even if it means that you have to create this moment)=)
Becorse I have like the same thing with my boyfriend, my side efect though is not that I dont remeber but that when I feel bad and cant do everything my self, I rader get mad and my boyfriend have had his share, now it´s so that he have learnd how it is and just swipes it of, and he knows that if he lets me cool down, so will I have a bad conscience and appologasie just a moment later.
And I don´t think that you shuld appologasie corse it´s not your folt that you forget, but make sure that she is aware and maby put in an extra effort at other stuffs like romance, give her flowers, if you have the strenght and money, go away for a weekend, just do stuffs, be like teans, makeout in the middel of the street, just so that she still feels that you are there and that it is the two of you, together, becorse it is. A longterm desiace does unfortunly not just affect the carrier but also the peopel around us, and It is ofthen so that the peopel that are close, feels like it isnt there right to complaine aboute stuff, and this is a burden, they have to feel like they have the right to grieve to, otherwise they cant continue there part of the jurney towards the future with MS. Thats why I think it´s so importent to share your thoughts and feelings with eatchother, and make shore that both parts knows that it´s ok to be mad and upsat at MS, and life or whatever, becorse it´s from that that you can move on…
PS:And I know, many peopel says that you shuldent have to do stuffs like the things that I mentioned, when its you who is the sick one, buth I have been on both sides, and from my oppinion you have to “compensate” for the things that is geting lost by our desiase, but it dosen´t have to bee mutch, its ofthen the litel things that counts=)