Hi everyone. Sorry I’ve been posting alot recently but have a million and one questions to ask lol.
My partner has been diagnosed with RRMS. While we were waiting for his diagnosis he had a relapse which was making him sick on and off for 2 weeks. He fixes tractors for a job and this was happening during harvest so their busiest time. We were aware he was looking at a MS diagnosis so I advised my partner to speak to his boss at work as it looked really bad him being off for a few days, then back for a day then off again. His boss has been extremely supportive of my OH and between the two of them they decided to keep his diagnosis quiet as they don’t want him to be treated any different.
Heres where the problem comes in. My OH has a co-worker who is a really good friend of ours, and, he is dating one of my best friends. So I have spoken to my 2 best friends about what’s going on with OH and shared with them my fears, as I need support too. Now my friend is harping on at me about when OH is going to tell her boyfriend/ his friend. I’ve spoken to him and he doesn’t want it common knowledge. I’ve explained this to my friend but she is saying that they are taking the mickey out of OH for having time off work and she thinks he’s being selfish not telling him the reason he keeps having time off.
Now I’m really angry at my friend for saying this to me. I said its HIM with the condition and therefore it’s up to HIM when he shares it, if he decides to at all. Why can’t she see I spoke to her in confidence for support and I feel she only wants him to know so she can talk to him about it. Also, how awful that they are taking the mick as they don’t have a clue what he could be going through.
So so what do you think I should do? Did you share with your friends and colleagues?? I feel I can’t talk to my friend about it now as she has made me really angry about the whole thing.