Scared

I’m 22 I got diagnosed with ms in November! I’ve been finding life really hard, I have the most surportive boyfriend who is there for me though it all! But is it far to put him though this when he could find someone else and have a normal future. As we don’t no what my future holds. Thank Amy

Hi Amy Welcome to the forum. Sorry it’s under these circumstances. It’s normal to be scared/worried/anxious… What is a normal future & who knows what it holds. Anything could happen to anyone at any time whether you have ms or not. I was dx 11 years ago. I still work, walk & have a good life with a lovely wife. I firmly believe a cure is not far away, or if not a cure a prevention of deteriation. Don’t lose your future about something we can’t predictive. You sound like you have a great bf. Dont lose him for what no-one knows. Take care Neil

Hi Amy

That’s a really tricky question (one of many that I’m sure you have), to which there’s no easy answer but all the above responses are spot on.

Have you spoken with your boyfriend about this and your fears? If you haven’t, I’d really suggest speaking to him and to be as open and honest as possible about what you’re thinking and feeling.

You’ve only just been diagnosed but none of us know with any real certainty what the future holds, that’s the nature of the condition, and we don’t know how our partners will react or cope. Everyone of us on here will have a different experience; I was single when I was diagnosed and terrified nobody would want me cause I was ‘broken’, but am now very happily married to someone I met 4yrs later when I was in middle of a 6 month relapse!

Besides, I think only your boyfriend can answer your question on whether or not it’s fair. It might not be your choice to make :o)

Garry

That you for all the posts they’ve been very helpful ! I’m gunna have a good chat with him and see how he feel about it all and I no ms doesn’t just affect me it’s everyone round me too! You all sound like amazing and strong people Thank you all Amy X