Hi Cashew, after an initial withdrawal from everything or everyone beggared off when I wasn’t very well, I had a long look at what I could do. I had some limitations but managed to find lots of things at the library. My favourite which I would have never thought of years ago because I could never sit still for a minute, is colouring on a Monday. They provide hundreds of drawing/pens/felts/mindfullness books. We have extended the time period to two hours. We are a like-minded group of people who have some or lots of limitations. We have a cup of tea, chat sometimes, laugh quite a bit but mostly colour.
We have all bought colouring equipment for our homes. I suppose my point is that you wouldn’t have dragged me there years ago. A few winters ago I spent a whole winter in the house on my own sometimes till I almost ran out of food. Then decided for my mental health, I had to find something new even if it didn’t interest me. I would get a taxi there if I couldn’t drag my dodgy legs there or even ask someone to pick me up for the first time ever. Since finding the colouring, the people there have introduced me to loads of other lovely things that go on. Again not anything I would have ever chosen previously and my energy and illness levels mostly prevent me from going to other things. But I am out and about and am deeply grateful for it.
The council should provide a list of what’s on locally, groups, meetings, U3A etc or internet if you have access to it. I have found loads of things that are on the sidelines if you know how to look for them. Here there are volunteer drivers who are local, you pay them per mile, there is a library van that drives round the streets if you let them know they will bring 12 books to you. I couldn’t exist without netflix and also exercise classes on the internet that play through my tv. I sit on my arse surrounded by blankets in the worst cold weather, pretending to box following a boxing class. I can only do it for about five minutes but I do it. I allott different parts of the day for different things, eating, tea all day, out even if it is in the shed, potting seeds, reading, internet, netflix. I love IMDB and finding out about films, music, actors etc. Its a big adjustment curve, you need to find your thing!