Please read as there is a good question at the bottom of this post.
I just got so fed up with us being overlooked, (not so much us but our little one who has hardly been taken out and gerard cannot do this anymore its taking its toll on him) Twice in two years OHs family have taken our youngest the other 3 times we have managed to take him ,yet other family children who have more able bodied parents and more relatives have gone out more. I was so fed up that our youngest kept being ignored and the odd sarky comments on facebook i erupted… I gave a bleak message on facebook the other week not just to my lot (family) but to OHs aswell. Got a response from my lot, they took little one for the weekend and gave me and gerard a break. Wow sometimes it pays to shout.
My sister was cold towards me (can’t care anyway as she never rings its always me ringing her and if my results come back soon can’t say i am going to ring her. Funny that as i worried about her results for a biopsy and rang her and me and gerard went into essex (long drive from where we are) and visisted her in hospital.
Anyway, it was a long overdue break and i got to see a sister and nieces i have not seen in six months, don’t get me wrong i have used public tranpsort to get to her six months ago in the snow, and she moaned that WE don’t go to see her. Well she works in the afternoons, what the hell am i supposed to do.
Just feel sorry for other kids who get overlooked and left out just because their parents have a condition, i think families should offer now and again.
It occured to me the other day some people winge about being under pressure well some people WILLINGLY put themselves under pressure example ;- they really moan about the new car and how much its costing, well nobody asked you to buy it if the old one was working ok. Other people have life threatening and dibilitating conditions they did not ask for but they’ve got to deal with it.
How do you handle your anger at other people… i feel like saying to other people…well at least you got your health… would that work ?
sorry but i needed to rant oh by the way OHs family sisters not speaking to me… no loss …they didn’t bother with us. Gerard says
my ranting at family could alienate family… I had to laugh because i said it was BECAUSE THEY ARE ALIENATING US I RANTED IN THE FIRST PLACE… I am in hospital myself next week and gerard does not know yet, cystocopcy. I am very worried. I did not go into detail but mentioned this, no response from my sister at all. Not a care in the world. Her health is fine. I do know this about her as i have been told. Well thats families for you. Fingers crossed my results come back ok. Oh how bitter am i today ?.
Best of luck and love to you all
love from sandra and gerard.