Hey, I have multiple long term conditions including RRMS and I’m struggling to keep the house running. My husband works long days and does a lot to keep housework under control, and he is exhausted, currently isolating in the spare room with covid! I have just had a relapse and am still dreadfully fatigued. I do what I can. I have family, they all live far away but they will try to help and will hopefully come this week because of my husband isolating but they can’t come and do our housework every week!. My vision was shot so I couldn’t drive and had to ask for so many lifts and use expensive taxis for multiple hospital appointments at multiple hospitals and I feel like it’s more than my friends should have to do or can reasonably do. My eyes are nearly back to normal so that should make it a bit easier. We are all also caring for my mum who has just started treatment for brain cancer so she now also has lots of appointments. It’s all a bit overwhelming and we’re just trying to get through! I am still in disbelief that this is my life right now. Sorry for the bad luck dump, there’s more but I have to stop somewhere! Any advice would be gratefully received as well as just some understanding of how overwhelming it all is. Thanks for reading!
I am sorry that life is being so very difficult for you and your family. No wonder you feel overwhelmed. Best wishes for battling through this particularly difficult combination of troubles, and I hope that life gets a bit calmer and nicer for you soon. In the meantime, all I can suggest is that you assume that offers of help are just that: offers of help. So just keep saying ‘yes, please’ when help is offered.
Thanks! I honestly can’t believe this is all happening! I will try to accept any help on offer. I guess I just have to hope we all come out the other side with no long lasting effects.
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I’m sorry to hear you are struggling with so much at the moment, that is an awful lot to have on your plate!
As your husband works and you have multiple health conditions, I am wondering if it would be worth looking into getting a Needs Assessment from your Local Authority with regards to a care package, if you haven’t already? It is means tested and you would only be eligible if you had savings below the current threshold of 23,250 - but it might be worth looking into. Alternatively if LA support isn’t an option, would you be able to pay for some help during the week?
I hope you can get something sorted out, as the additional stress can have a detrimental effect on our health, particularly MS.
Thanks @Willowtree, we are in a very odd housing situation that I won’t go into. We have started the process of buying a house but it is obviously not going to move quickly. Once we are in the new house I think I will ask for a needs assessment. In the meantime, I don’t think we can afford to pay someone but I can look into it, it might sound stupid but how do you find someone who can/will do washing up and those every-day things?