Last Wednesday night I was out sharing a Christmas meal with some of my former work colleagues. I had to take medical retirement due to my MS after 36 years of nursing last July. I was wearing a knee length dress and some knee boots with a block heel. I was feeling good and felt nice and feminine and managing to balance on the heels ok.
After a lovely meal and a very pleasant evening I went to get my coat from the cloak room. There was a group of women sitting round the table next to the cloak room. Walking towards them I adjusted my dress making sure I wasn’t showing any more leg above my knees than I intended. I turned to go into the cloak room when one of the women shouted out " are you looking for the toilet?" I said" no I am looking for my coat"
The rest of the them burst out laughing instead of just leaving it there she came back with " well she looked like she was bursting for a pee". They all erupted into laughter once again, I retrieved my coat off the peg and had to walk past them all again. The cloak room had no door on it so I could hear everything she was saying.
Feeling self conscious by this time I started walking away when she continued to justify what she had said by repeating herself in an even louder voice just in case anyone had failed to hear her the first time round in the rest of the bar room!!
It was at this point my right leg decided to play up and not follow through so I stumbled on my heels but didn’t fall. Then she couldn’t help herself by adding " looks like she’s had too much to drink as well" gales of laughter from the rest of her cronies.
I hadn’t had an alcoholic drink all night I just felt really embarrassed and couldn’t wait to get out the room. I only told my husband about it today but now I feel angry.
Why do we have to endure such ignorance as disabled people in this country. It’s the first time it’s happened to me and I felt hurt and vulnerable at the time.
In the future I will stand up for myself if my husband had been there he would have savaged them!!
I am going to end up getting quite militant about the way disabled people are treated. None of us asked for this incurable neurological disease and it’s hard enough coping with it on a daily basis. I for one refuse to be a made into a social pryia because I am unfit to work and claim benefits and have to live on a small pension and still pay taxes!!""
Sorry for the rant. Hope everyone has a good Christmas.