Been with my wife since I was 19 and she was 18, 6 months in her MS started - first by destroying her eyesight then her mobility issues set in as well as fatigue and bladder problems.
Because of these problems she’s never worked and we’ve lived together off my salary with a tiny bit of help with disability benefits.
11 years on and we’re doing our best to make things work, but financial restraints and not being able to go out and do things due to her limitations makes life difficult (something shared with most people on here).
But I now want to go travelling for two weeks but she has become nasty towards me over it, despite the fact that she will be guaranteed a large network of support and being taken care of during that time.
It may seem callous to go on holiday without her, but I’m struggling with the mixed messages of “I don’t want to hold you back” and then guilting me and acting emotionally hostile when I do pursue an interest she is unable to partake in.
I feel I must do what makes me happy so I’m strong enough to make her happy, but I find that is received with begrudgement.