My name is Mike and i’m 65 years old i was diagnosed with ppms in April 2012 after being misdiagnosed for a number of years. I had to give up work in the summer that year not so much because of the ms but due to the medication i was taking, it seems i have a very low tolerance to painkillers, anti-inflammatory and anti-depressants as they all cause tiredness / drowsiness which can seriously affect my fatigue making the side effects worse than the symptoms.
It’s been a struggle both medically and financially to keep on top of things. My partner of 24 years is also my carer, my rock, the one i depend on, not only does she look after me but also her brother and mother who both have dementia.
In April 2015 she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer and had her operation in July which went as well as could be expected. While she was in the Royal Marsden her father was also admitted to hospital after a fall, we decided to keep this from her until she came home. If this wasn’t bad enough things were about to get a lot worse. I will try and keep this as short as possible.
The day she was released from the Marsden we arrived home to be greeted by our dog Barney who was acting very strangely, he kept falling over, walking into doors and shaking like a leaf, we called the vet ambulance and he was taken in,turned out he had been poisoned but luckily made a full recovery.
On her first session of chemo we had a text message from the hospital to say that her father had died so she had all the necessary arrangements to make which was very difficult for her due to the chemo. Two days before the funeral her mother fell and broke her hip.
Her daughter and 2 children came to stay and look after us both while she was having her chemo and everything seemed fine until she went home one day to collect some clothes for the children when her husband turned to her and told her that he didn’t love her anymore and didn’t want her back so she and the boys moved in with us.
It has been a very hard time for both of us, i don’t feel i’ve been giving her enough support as most of whats happened i’ve shut out or just let it slip by. Just can’t seem deal with anything at the moment.