I don’t know if this helps, I’m likely PPMS and I’m self employed (contracter), so going to work daily is client facing!
I just try to keep life simple, literally that Since I was diagnosed in the middle of the year I’ve learnt that anything social or otherwise is taxing. The more I do the more it creeps up on me.
So, during the week, my focus is work and I only bother to task myself with small things (i.e. that I can do in less than 30 mins, like doing the VAT return or cleaning the bath!) during weekday evenings.
At the weekends I only ever make arrangements for one evening OR daytime (I tried two and ended up being asleep most of the time).
Unless plans involve being at home i.e. having a friend visit for coffee or a film and then I know it takes it out of me a lot less!
I know that probably sounds dull but I have to force myself to get organised when I need to be and then try hard to relax at the right times too. Whereas I’m usually OK with a stick, popping into town to go to one shop and then getting a coffee means that going out for dinner means I’ll need my crutches and will need a lazy day the next day!
If anything important was approaching, I would plan for a quiet day first so I’d have my wits about me and enough energy
As for losing your identity, I get that! Remember that the friends worth having will still be there and looking good without the heels is a bit harder, but funnily enough since everyone remarks how well I look without the stressed out look that was there for quite some time before diagnosis, daytime make-up is just mascara! OK, it’s the new mega lash one from Clinique but with tremors etc. it was a faff so I keep it simple.
Maybe people just expected I’d look drawn and stressed now but I’m beginning to bounce back confidence wise as time goes on, I hope you can too