Hi, and thanks for taking the time to read this, I’ll try and keep it short but I can’t promise I’ll not get carried away !!
I help care for my mother, I live 10 miles from her so I tend to go round to see her every other day. She’s chair bound, needs hoisted, catheter fitted, I’d say the works but from reading posts on here I realize there is more to come. My dad is her carer and he does a good job and like I say I go round and help out. What I’m struggling with is how to switch off from being a carer when I’m not with her. I’ve set her phone so she can phone me whenever she needs me and now I’m finding it harder and harder to do anything incase she phones. My husband has been great about it but I do know we need to life our own lives too but I’m struggling with switching off. How can I go round to hers, deal with leaking catheters, rashes, her clinginess, then come home and forget about it all ?