I wanted to get in touch as we’ve reached a bit of a stumbling block in trying to take mum on holiday - my mum has secondary progressive MS, which she has had now for the last 4-5 years. She was diagnosed with relapse-remitting some 20 years ago. Mum’s mobility has drastically worsened over the last couple of years - she has poor movement in her right leg, severe drop foot, she very much ‘shuffles’ around the apartment (built for disabled access), I’m worried mum will probably be wheelchair-bound in-house within the next year. In terms of getting out, mum can just about walk perhaps 50m, but she needs to have her stick and to be linked up to one of us. So she’ll mostly go out in the wheelchair/scooter.
Mum hasn’t had a holiday in some time and the last holiday she had with my dad last year was a long weekend in Spain, but my dad found it so difficult getting mum around that it barely felt like a holiday for him. It’s caused many arguments between them as mum is resigned to her capabilities, but dad still obviously struggles to let go of his ideal holiday scenario. My mum turned 60 this year so I booked a week away for her to go with me to Seville - I thought this would give dad some nice time by himself at home (which he never gets!) and it would also get mum away. I’m well aware of her capabilities so I would never over-book on the holiday, it’s more just a great chance for us to get away. However after a few months deliberation my mum told me she doesn’t want to go, she just doesn’t feel capable of it.
I’d love to know any holiday suggestions that you think would suit someone of my mum’s capabilties, or any good sites or ways to help mum AND dad get around with more ease, so it can feel like a nice enjoyable holiday for both of them.
I’m worried mum will become a recluse and never have a holiday, which breaks my heart. Any suggestions are welcome, especially any experiences you’ve had that have worked well.
Thanks in advance,