hi it is my wife with MS and she will be on here as well as her carer i do find it hard i do not want to do to much for her as she wants to try and do things herself but it is difficult at times i can see when it is hard for her but at times if i try and help she can get a bit annoyed and i do get this she is used to living life in the fast lane and now she cannot it must be so hard for her i just want to take this MS away to make her happy i do not know what to do at times i just want to make her happy again
Hi there. I am the one with PPMS in our house…25 years now and serious disability for most of that.
It was very hard for my hubby to realise what was happening.
MSers can need a lot of practical help, but dont always admit it.
AS difficult as it is, try to let your wife know you’re there for her.
You cant make MS go away, but you can still have a good life with it.
Boudsx
Hi
I take my hat off to all spouses / partners / carers many of whom never dreamt of what they were signing up for. The impact of needing help can be huge. For me there is no consistent rhyme or reason to know when help is ‘wanted’ (irrespective of need) or not wanted. I think the best you can do is to be there and offer when you think it is right and not be offended if it gets a snarly response.
If you have time, try to imagine that the roles are reversed, how would you respond?
Wishing you both all the best
Mick
thank you for your kind words
thank you for your kind words