As some of you know i moved from my home of nearly 30 years to a small sheltered flat. I am in the process of selling my house.
I have the flat how i like it, one major issue was the heat, but we have sorted that.
Since moving i have been hit by a chest infection my doctor thinks it was triggered by the dry heat. Now believe me when i tell you i havent had one or a cold for over 20 years.
Its hit me hard with my MS, and i feel like I am loosing the plot. The doctor came out and said yes you have a bit of a crackle take these antibiotics, which promptly made me sick so had to get different ones.
I dont know what to do with myself, and yes probably behaving like a child but really the pain i have right now is enough to fell an elephant. my body is not happy and chucking all it can at me.
The reality is being sick on my own never had to endure that. I had forgotten how bad a cold was.
My family are being very inpatient with me, even my care worker is making me feel bad about myself.
I feel let down by my daughters as they make me feel bad about being scared and unwell.
EVERYONE feels like that they said, your getting yourself worked up because of Mike my husband.
I was so upset over that. They think i feel like this as i am scared i will end up like he did.
My eldest said to me “Mother people get chest infections all the time, you need to get over it and stop worrying”.
My husband did not have a chest infection when he passed away they still not sure what happened, but he had last stages of COPD, it hadnt even entered my mind. I am not worried about the chest infection so much is the aftermath of it on my MS. Yes a lot of people have chest infections but not a lot of them suffer with PPMS do they.
I feel alone and SCARED yes of being on my own really ill with something i haven’t had for years with MS.
My MS is kicking my arse so badly i can barely walk or eat. Its the first time for me in a strange place with non of my neighbour supports I am not surrounded by things that make me feel calm I am in a strange place with no one to talk too. I just feel terrible.
Even my care worker is being patronising how can we help if you don’t take a paracetamol talking about me behind my back to a friend of mine who has been supportive. Its not true, i do take them i am just not an idiot. I took one yesterday as i had a bad headache. I take my medication as I need it.
I feel so let down what’s it all for really. they don’t get it. I have moved from my home i was safe in after nearly 30 years and in a small flat with no one i know. its been way too hot. my daughter has only visited me once she lives 9 minutes walk away, i haven’t seen either grandsons. Yesterday they were all exasperated with me. I had to see the doctor again as the meds didnt suit me. I dont want to feel like this, i want to be well again, the daft thing is my careworker and my older daughter probably gave it me in the first place as they were both ill on the tail end.
My sister came further at least she seems to care.
My cleaner stayed with me on Thursday for 3 hours so i wasn’t on my own, i only pay her for 2, then she popped back yesterday to make sure i was ok. She cares obviously and is worried about me.
Am i being a child? I feel like i am having a mental breakdown or something as no one seems to care how i feel. I feel ill. I am scared, and lonely. I miss my home. I have been left in a flat all on my own ill and my daughters are making me feel like crap.
How can i get through this? I am taking lots of cold stuff, trying to drink loads of fluids, i can barely eat it sticks in my stomach but i am trying. I dropped a bowl of hot hot boiling soup on my lap the other day thank god i had a blanket over my legs, as my arms are weak.
Weirdly enough i had a small temp last week, but the one just gone it was normal again, so i hoped to feel better but if anything the chest seems worse to me.
I know it sounds bizarre how can you go without ever having a chest infection or flu. Well I have being pretty healthy. I had the chest infection when i was way younger and smoked but not for over 20 years was the last time i had cold/flu, and that was before the advent of MS.
Not sure why i have bothered to write this, i just feel so down in the dumps alone yes and scared. Not sure of what though.
Just read the above i can see why my daughters are getting exasperated with me, i do sound a bit whiny.