I am sorry but I really am having trouble understanding the arguments put forward by Dr G and Krakowian here.
Do “normal” people look at the achievements of Mo Farrah and think that they now have “an unrealistic expectation” put on them because they can’t run as fast as he can? Do “ordinary” people look at Nadiya from Great British Bake Off and go into despair because they will never sculpt a white chocolate peacock? No, they are interested in what they do, appreciate their talent and skill and - sometimes - might be inspired to try something that pushes them a bit whether it is a fun run or knocking out a tray of rock cakes.
What concerns me is that some people on this site appear to have the mind set that, because 1 disabled person is only physically able to do something that is quite “normal” with great effort ALL disabled people should be judged against that standard and be grateful that they can do that and not try to do more themselves. If somebody has disability it doesn’t mean that they can’t have personal targets or ambitions - whether it is getting out of bed and dressed in less than 3 hours or climbing Mt Kilimanjaro! Anyone who challenges those ambitions and targets is worthy of our appreciation.
And further, don’t put me in a disabled ghetto either. If I really want to do something but I need some help to do it I am not going to turn down assistance if it comes from somebody who is not disabled. Some people on here seem to think that people with disabilities are being coerced and forced into route marches up Ben Nevis whether they want to or not just to make able bodied volunteers feel better about themselves (or for even more suspicious hidden agendas).
There are many people who post on his forum who I have great admiration for and I find their stories inspiring and thought provoking. Some of them seem to be in a worse position than me and others seem better off but it’s how they deal with the hand of cards life has dealt them that is relevant to me. Conversely, there are other forum members who I could cheerfully slap because of the poor mouth they put on everything.
I was reading an e-book recently by the blogger “Stumbling in Flats” and she tells the story of attending her local MS Society Group and being politely asked not to return because her attitude about life was “too positive” and was upsetting other attendees. Some people do seem to fall into the reassurance of low expectations when they diagnosed and embrace the label of “poor disabled person” with open arms! As my Mother in Law would say about miserable people she knew locally “she never enjoyed GOOD health”