MS and how I’m feeling and lack of accessibility in some premises means I often decline invitations. The upshot of this is that people now tell me they don’t invite me because they know I won’t go.
Frankly I’m offended and a little bit hurt.
I’d like to come up with the words to say so without appearing to be complaining just to say, just because I often decline an invitation please don’t stop asking me.
Am I being over sensitive?
Hi Flowerpot, Something similar happened with me, with my friends, they’d plan things and leave me out, saying “we didn’t think you’d be up for it” I just said “well you could have at least asked me” In the end I said “don’t bother asking me” as I’ realised myself that I couldn’t do it anymore anyway and that way I’ve stopped all the upset. Also I’ve asked then to stop sending me Whatsapp messages and photo’s when their on holiday telling me “WHAT A GREAT TIME THEIR HAVING” as for someone who can’t do that anymore it’s a bit much, I do wish them a good holiday and when they get back ask if they’ve had a nice time I’m not so selfish, but people don’t realise what it’s like to live with something like this, other than the people you live with (upto a point) or the people on here. Take good care of yourself and try to keep 
Jean x
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Not sure what sort of invitations you are talking about , nor who they are from. Is it possible to just say ‘sorry I won’t make this one - too tired etc - but thanks for the invite and hope to see you soon, etc’ or ‘ sorry but that restaurant, theatre or whatever is too hot for me/ isn’t easily accessible’. And also make suggestions of where would be a good place to go?
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It sucks big time that you cant say to them “look invite me, i am or may not be able too manage due to my condition etc, etc” what if you ask them to meet up some where you can gey access to. I do that with my pals and i get the blzme for us all getting fat lol. It is a weekly meet up for a fry up, coffee and cake. We still talk crap lol