I’ve just whizzed through your various posts over the last couple of years. I do feel very much that your daughter is taking you and your love for her for granted.
You’ve been posting many of the same issues over time. Your daughter has, it seems to me, wanted to have her world ordered exactly as she wants it. I understand that there is an element of OCD to her need to have things exactly right, but unless she shows a different side of herself to friends, I’d be surprised if she has any.
It’s so difficult to know what to say this time. Is it mood swings, or the behaviour of a spoilt child who wants her own way? Yes, she has to live with MS and increasing disability. Physiotherapy is hard work and I completely understand why she resists it. Counselling too is hard to do and committing to a course of whichever kind of counselling means looking at her life and thinking about how she could effect change.
I do realise that your daughter is not a child, but a grown woman. As such, surely she should start taking a bit of responsibility for her life and health issues?
In each of your posts over time, your love for your daughter shines through. I feel that you are suffering every bit as much as your child. And knowing that however old your daughter gets, she will always be your child.
I’ve often thought that it’s not only the person with MS who has to live with a horrible disease, but the people who love them. In some respects, I feel that it’s almost easier to be the person with MS than the nearest relative. In my case it’s my husband who suffers MS with me. In the case of your daughter Rosebud, it’s you. And perhaps it’s time that she realised just how tough it’s been for you.