ok so i was diagnosed the end of march with ms, not being told so far what type of ms i have although i keep getting symptoms popping up and staying for weeks at a time, also is it wrong for me to want revenge on someone to teach her a leson about ms? ill explain… my ex aunt has been begging to have ms for the last 15 years, she goes to different drs and surgerys asking to get tested and she puts herself through lumbar puncture after lumbar puncture and scan after scan to get a positive result, every time it comes out negative for ms, so she moves to the next dr surgery, every doctor shes seen so far has told her she is fit and healthy and theres is ni sign of ms at all, shes even gona as far as having gene testing done and they have told her theres no sign at all of ms being present, her last drs appointment she had he gently suggested she neded to see a psychiatrist as theres nothing physically wrong with her at all, which she went mental about and accused him of being incompetant, she found out i have ms and told me that im lucky to have it and i should be greatful for having it, by which time i wanted to put her in hospital, all i want to do is teach her a lesson about wanting a proggressive condition that no one in there right mind would wish or want to have
Hi Vicki,
Without even worrying whether it’s “wrong” or not, it is not good FOR YOU to get embroiled with people who are a total wind-up, and waste your energies harbouring thoughts of revenge. Stress makes MS symptoms worse, so try to keep clear of people who are sure to cause it, and not get involved in their lives - or have them involved in yours.
Your ex-aunt sounds like one of these people. Instead of wanting revenge on her, why not think how sad it is that anyone probably IS mentally ill enough to want MS. She may not have it, but she isn’t fine, if her mental obsession with it is blighting her life. This too is an illness!
Alternatively, she could be one of the small minority of people who do have something serious the matter, but which is resistant to diagnosis for years. I’m not saying she has MS, but there are people on this forum who’ve gone literally years before being offered genetic testing (for other conditions, not MS), so the fact this was even offered (unless she went private and paid) suggests something was wrong that merited further investigation. They don’t just dole out genetic tests to anyone who turns up at their doctor’s snivelling, so there must have been a reason.
Anyway, regardless whether her illness is real or imagined, why do you need her in your life? Let her get on with whatever her problem is, and you get on with yours. If she’s an “ex” aunt (I assume that means she was related to you by marriage, but is now divorced?) why do you still need anything to do with her? I guess you’re going to say there are children in the picture, which might mean you still have to put up with her, for their sake.
But really, I’d limit contact to whatever is necessary for the children, and NOT get into debates about your health, her health, or anything else that is none of each other’s business. You certainly don’t need the aggravation, and if she has mental health problems, she probably doesn’t either.
Don’t waste time on toxic people.
Tina
x
Why on earth would anyone WANT to have MS?!?!?! I’m not sure I could bear to be in the same room with this woman if I were you. In fact, if I were, I would probably end up facing assault charges! 
AVOID! AVOID! AVOID!
Look after you. Ignore this nutcase. And if you need to educate the rest of the family, there are some really good booklets on here and on the MS Trust website - so they don’t get taken in by her!
Karen x
Ditto. Don’t waste love, attention or care upon people who don’t give it back. They will sap your energy. Surround yourself with the precious people who contribute to your emotional health and who bring you joy. Xx
thanks, thats half talked me into not going round to ring her neck for her, till i just got a txt from my brother telling me he just saw her in our local supermarket rushing round…after telling him a few days before shes now in a wheelchair because she can no longer walk…aaaaggh so angry at someone like that, still im trying to resist the urge not to go round
Do not. For you and only you. Your health rests on staying calm and as unstressed as poss. Put the kettle on and have a cuppa and something indulgent. Breathe deeply and remember…some people just aren’t worthy of the effort. Xx
I’m pretty shocked at this story!! I thought people like that were exaggerated - you stay away and waste no more time (although I empathise at your wish to revenge so would I want to teach her a lesson). Her life must be so dull. You look after yourself xxx
trust me debc this woman is beyond belief, there are ppl out there like her, think ill take the advice n just stuff it n ignore her, karma is a bitch and one day will sink her
I think that she should be avoided at all costs, however I feel sorry for her as she is clearly suffering from a mental problem and needs help. Perhaps she has some form of Munchhausen’s. Anyway, try not to worry about her, just yourself! Teresa xx
Sorry - spelling Munchausen.