Not totally sure why I’m posting other than to wail. I’m the one with MS ( for some 19 years and not doing too bad). My wife had a hysterectomy this morning to remove the cancer affected womb, endometrium etc. Operation was OK but the surgeon found signs that the cancer has spread to her peritoneal lining. In general this is pretty bad - serious and even with chemotherapy and radiotherapy the outlook can be pretty bad. I feel pretty devastated by this news and oh god , if I lose her , the love of my life !!
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Oh please try to be positive for her and for you, even though it’s not the news either of you wanted to hear. It’s amazing what they can do these days, so pleased try to keep the faith.
Thinking of you take care
Pam x
Thanks Pam. Yes, just got to hope for the best. We are pretty close and know that whatever happens we will do it together. Going to be a long difficult road.
In some weird way I don’t know whether to laugh or cry : a person with MS caring for a person with cancer!
Fortunately her sister, brother and one of her daughters are nearby
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Hi @Hank_Dogs , I’m so sorry and sending good vibes your way, don’t give up hope yet.
I get what you say about losing her, if I lost my hubby, the love of my life, we’ve been together for 48yrs, I’d be devastated.
So I’m wishing you well and praying for your wife.
Jean
@Hank_Dogs So sorry to hear this. Sending positive thoughts your way. Stay strong.
I am very sorry to read that your wife is so unwell and is likely to be facing a long spell of arduous treatment. That’s such a tough one, and I can only wish you well and hope for better days ahead for both of you.
Positive thoughts for you both, you fight this with everything you got, love, strength and togetherness x
Oh I’m so sorry to be reading this. You are both in my thoughts x
Thank you @RetrovirusUK @Cavworld @animali @Skippy16 @alison100 @greenhouse. Life certainly brings some unexpected twists and bumps in the road. Just hoping and praying that the secondary cancer can be treated or managed. Thanks to the benefits of keyhole surgery my wife might be back home tomorrow ( quite amazing really - a pretty major 3 hour operation and back home the next day)
What awful news to read you must be beside yourself and I bet your wife is worried about you too! I really hope she gets the best treatment going and gets through this. Sending love and positive thoughts your way!
I have just read your post and I am truly sorry for you both.
The word cancer is such a frightening word.
I was diagnosed with breast cancer and was not sure how things would be, you all on this site kept me going.
Right now your heads will be filled with worry which is so natural
Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you both.
Much Love
Mary x
Really sorry to hear this and thinking of you both at this very difficult time.
My husband has had cancer twice and major heart surgery and luckily has come through it all. I don’t know what I would do without him and can imagine how you are feeling. Do take care its hard for you both.
I’m so sorry to read this. Wishing your wife well and am glad to see you have family close by. Lean on them when you need to.
Thinking of you both in the difficult times ahead.
Thank you for your kind thoughts. Chemo starts in a few weeks. Apparently it’s likely , but not definite to be an infusion every 3 weeks.
You are right she is worried about me . Don’t know if it’s just a feature of being a woman and mother but I keep telling her/ reassuring her that I’m fine and for the next few months or more ‘it’s all about her’ and let’s concentrate on her recovery and getting ready for chemo and beyond.
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Thank you Mary. She is now back home recovering from the operation and then waiting for chemo to start . It is indeed a scary word! We take heart from the leader of a local choir that my wife sings in and who has had stage 4 cancer for years. with management of the cancer, she is still going strong - leading the choir, putting on concerts twice a year and leading a children’s choir as well. An impressive woman !
How are you doing?
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Thank you Claret. My wife is now back home recovering and waiting for chemo in the next few weeks. I am amazed at the operation: admitted at 7.30 on Thursday; then a final pre-op assessment; a 3-4 hour operation; into the recovery unit and then in the ward and after a nights sleep a check to see if her blood pressure, wound etc were OK, then home around 1 pm the next day ( yesterday).
Equally amazed at your husband ! He must be made of strong stuff but it must have been a really worrying time for both of you. My best wishes
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Thank you Kestrel. My wife is back home recovering- and sleeping a lot which is good.
It’s been interesting , heart warming and also slightly amusing to see how her brother, sister and daughters have reacted. I think I need to do more to reassure her daughters; her brother has been very practical and supportive as has her sister who has brought some home made meals for us. No doubt just being helpful and supportive but it’s amusing that she and some of my wife’s friends all ask ‘ can your husband cook, will he manage with the cooking’ ( I’m not at all offended by these sort of assumptions that ‘men don’t cook ‘ but I can indeed cook! Was making soufflés , pigeon dishes and the like in my 20s !)
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Bringing a home cooked meal makes us Mums feel useful in times of stress and having been the recipient myself in the past, it is much appreciated even though I can cook!
Glad to hear your wife is recovering, sleep really is the best medicine.
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I am doing fine thanks
I am glad your wife is home. When I was receiving radiotherapy there was a lady who had terminal cancer for 8 years and attending the Beatson for various treatments allowing her to continue “living” with the cancer.
I will continue to keep you and your wife in my thoughts and prayers.
I am doing ok, MS has stepped up a bit but I keep putting the good side out.
Much Love
Maryx
Thanks Mary and good to hear that you are doing fine . I think my wife might well end up at the Beatson at some point ( so far during diagnosis and the hysterectomy she has been to the RAH, Glasgow Royal Infirmary and Stobhill))