Carann, is there an ms club any where near you? It might be a little bit of light in the life of both you and your husband. I love going to the one near me. Husband is my carer and drives me. He could leave me there and go off to have a break but he actually enjoys the tea and scones and the company. As your husband has had ms for 20 years, I may be telling you what you already know! Our village also has a Carers support group that meets twice a month. He went once but found everyone there not just older than him, but of older mindset too, so it wasn’t for him. Maybe make some enquiries with the ms nurse, community practice nurse or your gp even. I do hope you get something.