Cant stand for long but have a toddler

Hello everyone, I’m a newbie to this forum.
This is long so I’m sorry.

I’ve had MS now for roughly 10 years. During my last pregnancy, I was one of the unlucky ones who’s MS symptoms was exacerbated, resulting in me being bed bound for the last 4 months of my pregnancy.
I had to learn to walk after having her, which was not easy. My husband was amazing during all of this time. He was faultless.
Fast forward a little. My husband unexpectedly died when our baby was 16 months old. We also had a 16 year old and 13 year old also. Devastated can’t begin to explain this loss. He was my/our world. Our family has been forever broken beyond repair.:sob::sob:

I’ve had to continue completely alone. I’ve NO family network around me. They are roughly 200 miles away.
I’ve absolutely no idea how I’m doing this. It’s breaking me!
I’m now 42…work part time (still kept my job) my girls are 18,15 and 2 now.
18…works full time, 15 year old in gcse years so I can’t move closer to my family but also I’ve neither the funds… This now also leaves me with my 2 year old… Soon to be 3.
I’ve many ms symptoms but the lasting one from my last pregnancy is… I CAN’T stand for long periods of time.
I’m house bound because of this except work. My youngest is in nursery the days I work, BUT I just don’t know where I can take her or what I’m able to do for fun OUT the house. My home is my prison! Everything involves standing, walking and getting up and down constantly which I can’t do. If I leave the home, I have to have one of my elder children with me to push the pram, but it’s on the clock still. I’ve many pain meds and take my mothers on the days I need to work and go out as my ones alone don’t work fully. (yes, my GP, pain clinic, neurologist, Ms nurse DO know this… And no, not doing anything about it)

What can I do with my toddler to save her childhood from being a home prison of constant colouring, building blocks, puzzles, doll play etc?

She needs stimulation from outside. Craves to go outside to.
I’ve a swing park in front of my house I can’t go to as it’s constant standing. I took My elder girls to it when younger obviously, so its just heartbreaking that I can’t now with this one. :pensive:
What can I do? Where can I go?
I’ve full pip and have a mobility car… But no electric scooter. I’ve A wheeled walker for sometimes and a walking stick for others. I can however go without these for “short” periods (if mom meds are used but I’ve gotta make these last) but pushing the pram reduces this time window.
I live in Kent… HELP… PLEASE :pray:t5::pray:t5::pray:t5:.
I’ve no help or assistance at all. I don’t apparently qualify as I can dress and with my shower stool, can wash & dry independently.

I’m just lost. I’m trying so hard to do this all… But I’m breaking. Tiredness is killing me but tough! I’ve not had chance to grieve as single parenthood comes first.

If anyone has ANY day out ideas, based on my situation… For my toddler that I’m able to do… I seriously would be so grateful.

Thank you in advance.

I, however

Oh love, my heart goes out to you.

This is a heart breaking story…for you all.

I do think getting a mobility scooter would help a great deal for taking the little on out.

I’m a 71 y6ear old great granny and took my grandkids out using a scooter.

Please think about it. Ask your local MS group for a grant. Mine helped me.

luv boudsxx

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H Taz, your story is so sad and I can’t begin to understand what your have been through and continue to face. Trying to be helpful I am wondering if you have contacted any local MS Group? I see that there is a Maidstone and District Group which, apart from meeting up for coffees etc might well include mums who have similar experiences? Also, I have a mobility scooter which I use if I want to walk for more than 15-20 minutes. I know from when I was looking around that there are a fair few used scooters to be found at reasonable prices.