Before my husband and I decide if we plan to embark on becoming parents, it is hard to know how to prepare! For example, I wouldn’t be able to get a child to school on time every day. Absolutely not a chance. One solution could be home schooling? How have other people fit their life and their MS around their children? Unfortunately, we don’t have any parents or other family around to help. Our parents are either dead or elderly, and our families do not live locally. We don’t have a large income and I haven’t been able to work full time for years, and so simply paying other people to do things isn’t a viable option.
Hi there,
It sounds like you have a number of physical difficulties which might prohibit you managing to do certain tasks that children require so the most important question is how much of it can your husband do. My husband has had to be very hands on with our children and was able to support me in the early days in particular.
Its difficult for us to know how to respond without knowing if he has anything restricting him helping you. Even if he does, you would be likely get some help from social services. Loads of disabled people have children.
Certainly when it comes to getting children to school, social services would organise help for that so that should be able to be overcome but there is a lot to get through before that starts.
We didn’t have any help from parents either but I made sure that I got out to baby groups at churches and I met lifelong friends who have supported us over the years. If I couldn’t have got out to them to meet other parents and make friends that way, I would have found it very challenging. Later on, you meet other parents at nursery and the school gate who can support. You will always need other people to call on in an emergency.
You would also qualify for some free nursery hours as every one does.
I would discuss it with your GP and see what they say as that will help you decide. Good luck!
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