Hi all, I`m new to the forum. My mum has MS and is currently in a care home with it as she became pretty bad about 3-4 years ago and needs full time care. She was admitted to hospital on Friday past as she had aspirated food into her lung and it caused a pretty bad infection.
Upon admision her oxygen in blood level was less than half, at the time the doctor has talked about putted her in intensive care and possibly on a breathing machine,… They had also asked about DNR and if it was to come to this would I want them to attempt to resusitate her or not. To be honest it is not something that was ever discussed with the family.
She has responed well to treatment and sat and sunday she seemed to be doing well and didnt have to go to intensive care, but today when I went up she seemed not great. I put it down to the IV antiboitics and tiredness however the nurse came around and was attending to her and asked if I was next of kin as the doctor wanted to speak with me.
I got speaking with the doctor and he asked again about if she should be resusitated. This has really knocked me for 6. If she had of been herself today or as she was yesterday on saturday I would of thought it was a proceedure to ask, but as she didnt seem to well I`m fearing the worst and think they know something or suspect something may happen.
Is this a normal proceedure for doctors in hospital to ask next of kin such a question? She has been in hospital a few times in the past few years and we`ve never been asked this before and are quite worried. She is pretty bad with the ms and is bedridden, she is also loosing her swallow which is what caused her to inhale the food… My, my wife and my mums sister are all pretty anxious as to why this has been asked. She is disabled but we all work hard to make her life comfotable and she loves to see her grandchildern, we feel she still has something to live for and it seems like the hospital are just giving up on her… The doctor assured me this wouldnt be the case and she would still receive all treatments whatever we decided…
Is this a normal practise with hospitals?