I need some advice about dealing with stressful issues, my mum is wheelchair bound with ms, but able to do general daily tasks, unless she gets stuck or falls when transferring in and out of wheel chair, me and my dad look after her.
The issue is the mental side, she has a very poor memory, doesn’t think rationally about things, often gets very angry at small situations.
Combined with this she’s developed what I would call an addiction to shopping online, often getting obsessed with a certain thing each month, we usually have 3-4 parcels arriving everyday, and a house full of stuff we don’t need or already own, meaning things have to get boxed up and put in storage then inevitably she will buy them again.
There’s also cases of her getting new animals cats/dogs/other, saying it’s her choice if she wants to get animals, and not acknowledging the fact that I’m the one who has to take care of them because she’s unable to.
My question is how to deal with confronting her on problems like these? It almost always turns into shouting and swearing (on both sides).
I can deal with the physical side, if I need to carry her, if she falls, I’ve had to drag her out of a bath before she drowned. But I find it very hard to make her understand the smaller problems, as she think me or my dad are bullying her when we try to address them.
Recently I’ve got to the point where I will just avoid talking to her altogether even in normal conversation because it gets too stressful and I feel anger towards her (I know it is the MS that is the issue, but it’s getting harder to separate that from the person)
Are there councillors/therapists that you can have come over to discuss these mental health matters, for me and her?