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Why do people read, obviously in some depth a thread that they know is distressing for them, due to the depth of feeling of the posters and then go and report it?

I was about to reply to a recent thread that has now been closed, I found the debate interesting and challenging but due to ‘complaints’ it has been locked.

Why do people read posts that they don’t like, and carry on reading to the end until it becomes so distressing for them that they feel compelled to report.

The answer is simple - DON’T CONTINUE TO READ POSTS THAT YOU FIND UPSETTING.

Weird…

HEAR HEAR

I was enjoying the thread you are talking about and if it upset people they should have not read it

John

I agree, Fanny. The threads where the debate is likely to be robust are not hard to spot! Those of a delicate disposition could surely avoid them easily enough - if they actually wanted to.

Alison

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Some people must just log on looking for a reason to complain

The phrase, ‘Get a Life’ springs to mind

I love to read the comments from people with such strong opinions as I am the opposite, one minute I have one view and then I learn something new and am swayed in a different direction. MS symptoms and treatments really polorises opinions, I have no medical training but the more I read about others leads me to think we all seem to have something different and therefore its not surprising that we all seem to respond to different treatments. I respect other peoples opinions and the thought of discouraging a flow of shared opinions seems like something out of 1984. Best to you all. Peter.

Seems an overbearing reason for closing a perfectly valid conversation between consenting adults. If the moderator feels that a post within the thread is worthy of the complaint then amend / delete that one - but don’t stifle debate, sigh, I only joined a few days ago looking for answers, maybe the management style here is a bit too draconian

I’d support a post being closed because racism, sexism and any of the other isms ofcourse - but not just because someone who had obviously decided to spend time reading a post subseqently decided to be upset about it

I don’t want to read lame jokes that I’ve read a thousand times before but I wouldn’t consider complaining about them, that’s just my opinion

why dont you just start another post then stating what you were wanting to say ? just a thought ! x

Exactly Alison.

It smacks of Mary Whitehouse, the sanctimonious old biddy who did her damndest to extract all trace of fun from our lives in the 70s & 80s.

There’s an “off” switch, if you don’t like what you’re watching or reading then use it.

Don’t suck the life blood out of a very useful and informative forum. All you succeed in doing is stirring up more bad feeling, the thing you supposedly don’t approve of.

As Fanny so rightly says, get a life!

There was a great thread going on for several days, on which many opinions were exchanged then some boring old fart complains and it gets stamped on.

Lots of hours of research went into some of the answers that went in to that thread & we have to start a new one from scratch because a couple of folk didn’t like what they read…where’s the point in that?

As has been said, if people don’t like what they’re reading they should just avoid it - not stop the discussion for everyone else.

Just a thought. Be happy

[quote=“HKFooey”]

There was a great thread going on for several days, on which many opinions were exchanged then some boring old fart complains and it gets stamped on.

Lots of hours of research went into some of the answers that went in to that thread & we have to start a new one from scratch because a couple of folk didn’t like what they read…where’s the point in that?

As has been said, if people don’t like what they’re reading they should just avoid it - not stop the discussion for everyone else.

Just a thought. Be happy

[/quote]mmm wonder who that was then, try not to let it get you down though not good for the soul xx

[quote=“sparkly”]

Yes, I wonder? Someone who walks with angels no doubt.

Just a thought but niot the point, I was mainly reading it, most of it was way over my head, my comment would be completely out of context without the whole thread.

And if it were posted again, what’s to stop Mr/s Haile Distressed of Distressland being distressed all over again and stomping on the post with another distress call

[quote=“HKFooey”]

[quote=sparkly]

Yes, I wonder? Someone who walks with angels no doubt.

[/quote]Really !! do you know who it was then ? x

[quote=“sparkly”]

[quote=HKFooey]

Someone with a either sense of humour bypass or no capacity to appreciate an adult discussion

[quote=“HKFooey”]

[quote=sparkly]

[quote=HKFooey]

Someone with a either sense of humour bypass or no capacity to appreciate an adult discussion

[/quote]Guess so ! shame the culprit wont own up to it x

I’m assuming this has been sparked by the thread I started?

The thing I don’t get is that the title was “Reply to david603…” so why would other people choose to read it and get annoyed with the content when it wasn’t even addressed to them? I have no problem with people jumping into the debate, but to stifle it simply because they don’t like it? If it was david603 who complained, then fair enough (although he doesn’t strike me as that type at all (that’s a compliment David)), but people who aren’t even involved in it? Why not just not read it?!

I also really do not understand comments about that one post putting people off being on here. What proportion of the posts on here are debates / arguments? If they dominated the board, then fine. But they don’t! Not even remotely! It makes me wonder what other motive might be behind that position. Heaven know’s what though!

Perhaps people complain because they don’t like one side of the argument? If that’s the case, then surely the right thing to do is to argue your position, not run to daddy complaining?

Perhaps people complain because they don’t like some of the participants? If that’s the case, then why not just avoid their posts?

Am I annoyed that my thread got stopped? Actually, I couldn’t care less. The 4 hours I took to compile the research supporting my case was not wasted: I made my point. It was not answered with any credibility. That’ll do me

What an apt quote. I wonder if you meant it the way I have interpreted it?

Those who shut down debate in anger (or malice) don’t want to learn the truth.

Sounds about right to me.

Greg: my comments are in no way directed at you or your team.

I wasn’t angry, I just wondered why a valuable post had been shut down based on someone finding the debate within it ‘distressing’.

So I’ve no idea why you’ve posted hairi

Sparkly I am really confused. On the now closed thread you said

and now you are suggesting that the thread be re-started? And forgive me, but it seems to me that you are being deliberately provocative towards HKFooey, one might almost say, “Nasty”. What is your game?

The original thread was a genuine debate about an issue that would be of interest to most people with MS yet your responses on this thread appear to be of a tit for tat nature contributing nothing. Why do it? Or is your MS playing you up causing you “Inner conflict”?

Belinda

[quote=“Mhairi”] [quote=rizzo]

What an apt quote. I wonder if you meant it the way I have interpreted it?

Those who shut down debate in anger (or malice) don’t want to learn the truth.

Sounds about right to me.

Greg: my comments are in no way directed at you or your team.

[/quote] It’s open to interpretation.[/quote]

All words and actions are. That’s why it is so important to allow free speech.