Hello,
I have recently been diagnosed with MS (Relapsing Remitting) and in all honesty it is the worst thing I have been through in my life so far - and I like to think I am relatively strong.
It all started for me in November 2015 where I had complete right sided numbness, after being passed from pillar to post I went private and saw the loveliest Consultant. I had an MRI and they found a lesion so they called it a Clinically Isolate Incident and I went on my way - unbeknown to be what this was the start of.
Then in May-June 2016 I moved house, relocated and got engaged - everything was going a bit too well for me. I then started to experience vision problems along with left sided numbness so I phoned my GP as it scared me, I thought I was going blind. She said she thought it was to do with my ‘neurological issues’ and to see an optician and then my consultant, which I did.
My optician confirmed that my optic nerve was inflamed and this was probably a job for my consultant, so I did the usual stupid thing of Googling and guess what I found? The dreaded MS. I contacted my consultant in a panic and she told me to come in again, she did some basic eye test and asked a lot of questions and said there is a possibility of MS… I cried A LOT, unusual for me I am not an emotional person especially in front of others. I had another MRI done and they found lesions on my brain that an the combination of my blood test results confirmed I had MS.
Currently I am waiting for my first appointment with the MS Nurses, and my new consultant (who only works in the NHS not privately) my consultant referred me onto him as apparently he is a ‘guru’ in MS and the best person you can hope to see, so I have gone with it.
This has been the toughest few months of my life and I do at the minute feel like I have changed as a person - which sucks.
My family, friends, colleagues and Fiance are all so so supportive and I couldn’t ask for a better bunch of people to be around me helping. However, I have felt recently like nobody understands…
If your leg falls off, people can see it, they get it, they know what sympathy and support to give you. Unfortunately I have been diagnosed with something that doesn’t have an awful lot of certainty so it is hard for people to know what to say or what to do, I get that.
I have, at times, felt really isolated…I think it is fair to say it is an isolating disease. Everyone listens, offers supporting words and is so so so kind but there is just that small part of me that knows they don’t quite understand…I have had a lot of “It could be worse” “At least you know what it is” “Joe Bloggs has MS and they still run marathons” which at first helped then after a while made me angry. I don’t care what could be worse, I don’t care about Joe Bloggs and I CERTAINLY don’t care about running a marathon. Selfish and mean I know but you can’t help how you feel. Don’t get me wrong there definitely are much worse things in the world to happen to someone, but for me, this is the worst thing that has happened to me yet.
One thing I have definitely learnt is you have to let yourself feel what you want to feel. If you feel upset, let yourself be. If you feel angry with the world, be angry with the world. Holding back feelings definitely does not and will not help, it just prolongs you coming to terms with it and owning it.
The last few weeks I have felt a bit more positive, which made me feel guilty for not moping about this hateful thing - so you can never win!
Now I have received my appointments through it has hit home a bit more, like this is real, this is my life now. Which has caused me to have a few wobbles, but I am definitely feeling stronger than I was.
One irritating thing I have noticed with the vision problems is that exercising makes it temporarily and quickly a lot worse, until I cool down / until my heart rate goes down… that sucks… and makes you feel really stupid… but I will learn to deal with it.
I guess, long story short, I am here to share my experience so far (in the hope it might help someone else) and also to vent to people that understand a bit more, and people that won’t feel awkward when you do vent. It has taken me a long time to even look on the Internet for a forum or anything to do with MS because I was scared about what I might find, and even today I read something and it freaked me out and I shut the Website down - this is all things I have to do to learn about my diagnosis and know what to expect or not to expect.