Never thought I’d type that!
The first couple of years are arguably the toughest emotionally - it’s so hard getting your head around your diagnosis and then, on top of all that, you have to try and work out relationship stuff too!
In my opinion, the most important thing is to be willing to work it out; burying your head in the sand is probably the worst strategy. It’s fine to do that once you’ve dealt with the diagnosis (especially if you’re really quite well), but doing it before you and yours have dealt with the diagnosis just means that you are storing it up for a later date (by which time all sorts of misconceptions and grievances will have built up).
One of the issues about relationships is a difference in knowledge. Another is a difference in time along the path of dealing with things (e.g. Karina: your grieving versus your husband’s denial). Knowledge is an easier thing to deal with: download or order some free booklets about MS from here and/or the MS Trust website (and make them read them!). (Karina: the MS Trust do a great one aimed at teenagers who have a parent with MS.) Dealing with a difference in timings is harder. All I can say is that if it isn’t improving with time, please get some professional help. Same goes with yourself. If you can’t get out of the grieving stage, please see your GP. I saw a counsellor in the early days and it helped me immensely. The counsellor should be able to help you work out how to deal with others too.
@Mr S: I don’t think meds are very effective for numbness, sorry It’d be worth asking your MS nurse though. He/she may know of something.