Today I took my daughter down to mine. I was getting active I weeded all my pots ready for flowers yesterday had my daughter all afternoon, fed and bathed her. Then this morning my dad was supposed to take her down to me but things weren’t going to plan so I’d to go to there’s and pick her up. I’d new taken my meds. Came home started making soup cut my finger at 10.30 it’s still bleeding yet. Then my daughter started being sick all over me the floor got her cleaned up. Got the soup finished eventually. Mum said she’d take her for a walk for fresh air. So she arrived at 2.30. Got told I should have a lid on the soup and it was. Up to high I’d just finished adding the water to make it so lecture number one. Then I got i got told the house was a mess and yeah the kitchen is as I was in the middle of cooking. And the toys in the living room well they all go into the tub there it takes 2 mins. Then she asked me if shed fallen and hit her head which she hadn’t. As she didn’t look well. I was like no I’m just gutted as everything was tidy first thing this morning. And I thought I was doing good making a batch of soup which I’ll blend for daufhtwe I’m just devastated I get told I’m not trying then when I try I’m criticized but what can I say she helps with daughter so I can’t say much. I hate this illness so much.whatbis the point She’s said she’s taking my daughter back to hers this afternoon. I just want to look after her. Apparantly I’m not that bad.
“She’s your daughter”… I think that says it all… she probably feel she’s helping BUT really dont think she is, hope you dont mind me saying x. Take care and try not to be so hard on yourself.
Hi, Im sorry to hear how your day has turned out.........not what youd hoped for, eh?
If your mum does help, but at the same time, makes you feel like a child, when you know you are doing your best, maybe it`s time to tell her how you really feel. Do you think you could manage without her help?
She may throw a tantrum herself, but you are an adult and shouldnt be chastised the way you are, without fear of reprisal if you speak up.
Is the little girl your only child?
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No I have a little boy as well I’ve always done what I’m told I suppose, I’m a pleaser. No I do need their help I don’t mind u saying that at all X
That’s a lot more than I can say, Anon, and I suspect that I am not alone. And I do not have little children in the house.
It’s tough, but try not to let thoughtless comments get you down too much.
I hope that tomorrow is a better day.
Alison
Thanks I was just having a down moment and had a rant I’m ok now Was just getting frustrated and my massage was today and I didn’t get and that is the highlight of my week. Tomorrow is another day, cleaner is coming tomorrow, some at nursery and I plan to sit and read to my daughter she loves books, cuddle her watch a movie and let her play in the garden My hair which was always nice is not happy at the moment I’m thinking it’s the amount of drugs in my system, I get spots having never had them before at 31 have to use clearasil vain I know. My nails keep breaking, I used to get them done every fortnight. This new me takes some getting used to. Any way I’m having coffee and going to bed after I inject and take all meds x
It’s crap isn’t it! Pardon my French but there’s no other way to say it is there? I get days when I feel useless, when nothing I do is right - get everything wrong and can please nobody. But I don’t beat myself up about it because I can’t help it. Somedays I’m like Wonder Woman and can achieve everything but the next I’ll be the complete opposite and achieve nothing but it’s not because I’m ‘lazy’ or ‘idle’ or ‘useless’ or anything else like that it’s because I have MS! End of! If there was a cure I’d take it and try to be the World’s Best Mum (suddenly gone bold for some reason and can’t undo it - oh well, I guess it’s one of those not-so-good days) but there isn’t so eveyone else in the meantime will just had to deal with it like I do.
I’m sure you’re doing a great job with your kids and that your mum is just trying to help but it really will help you if you tell her how you feel.
Good luck!