Employer is not being flexible or supportive. Any advice?

I’ve been suffering with various symptoms for the last 2 years and am under investigation for possible MS at the moment (awaiting MRI).

Over the last 12 months I have had several periods of absence, some short and some longer term.

This has triggered the absence process and I am now on the last stage before they can decide to dismiss me. I’ve been told by my manager that I have until 8th March 2013 to improve my attendance or I’m out the door. They do not agree that I am covered under the DDA and are no longer willing to wait for a diagnosis as it has taken so long. Regardless of my diagnosis, even if it is MS, if my attendance has still not improved I’ll lose my job.

All of my absence has been recorded as sickness and none of it has been recorded separately in relation to my condition ( I feel this is simply because my condition does not yet have a label). I have been advised that the ‘best practice’ for many employers now means that they have to record absences relating to ongoing disabilities separately from normal sickness absence. This has not been the case and my disability absence triggered the absence policy.

My main symptoms are internal vibration, headaches, urinary issues and bowel urgency. I also have the usual weakness and sensory issues.

The only symptom which I am still struggling to cope with is the bowel urgency. I am now able to ignore and push on with the other symptoms but when the bowel urgency starts I am unable to leave the house for fear of an accident.

Part of the support agreement when I returned to work was that I could slide my shifts when I was unable to leave the house due to the bowel problems.

Early this morning the bowel urgency began again and I felt sick at the thought of having to call my manager. I finally plucked up the courage and told her the situation. I then proceeded to tell her that I would prefer today not to be noted as absence and be allowed the opportunity to work the time back next week, either by working longer hours Mon-Fri or working the full day on Saturday.

She said she was unwilling to allow me to do this as this would be masking my absence. I questioned what the ‘slide shift’ agreement was for if it was not to allow me flexibility when this symptom arose. She said that a ‘slide shift’ would mean starting my shift later that same day or leaving early if needed.

I have repeatedly explained to my manager that when the bowel urgency begins it’s not a case of knowing how long it will last and it tends to last 1-2 days at a maximum. Therefore a ‘slide shift’ to me means being able to swap my full working day for another or working longer hours to make up for the time off.

She refused to allow me to do this and today has therefore been logged as another absence. I now have myself up to high doe worrying that this one day off could mean the end of a 12 year career which I worked hard for.

Does anyone else feel that they are not giving me the right support? Should I be worried about having 1 day off when there are still 5 weeks left until they make their final decision?

I really feel sick now.

hi ,i dont know if this helps but i started a job just before xmas with having clinically isolated syndrom cis , have had this for 3 yrs now , but on the application form it did not ask if i had any health problems so didnt think to write this down as have been free from symptoms for over a year, but since i have started work i have went into a bad relapse and now i have decided to tell my manager about my health problem were she phoned head office up to find out were she stood with this ,

her office has said that if i cant manage things they more or less have to change some things i do to help me as they cannot let me go as it will be discrimanation, she did mention yesterday that they might get me a medical from their side if i agree , as much as my body feels drained i cant just hand in my nottice even though i wish i could right now as will not get any money for doing that and they cant let me go either so i feel stuck in a situation till i feel really worse than what i am

doc did give me sick line for week but really couldnt take it as i will still lose money

ive only been there just over a month so you might be able to fight yours with the time you have done at yours

lucy

Just received a call from my manager advising me she had run my suggestion regarding flexible working passed the department manager and they have confirmed I cannot move my working days or work longer shifts to make up for time off. A ‘slide shift’ only means coming in later to do my full shift or leaving early if my symptoms arise at work.

Therefore today has definately been logged as an absence.

She then proceeded to tell me that come March 2013, when my final absence review meeting is held, it will simply not be a case of whether my overall absence has improved over the next 5 weeks and they will still consider the amount of absence I have had over the last 12 months when making their decision.

Does anyone else think this sounds like they have already made up their minds about my dismissal?

I am currently on a diet designed to reduce the amount of bowel issues I am experiencing and although it is a healthy eating plan I am still allowed the occasional treat. During the call today she said that she felt I was not taking the matter seriously as she had noted I drank a tin of full fat coca cola with my lunch the other day!!! This is the only ‘bad’ thing I have had for weeks now and she has somehow managed to pick up on it. Unbelievable!!!

There was absolutely no need for her to call me back to clarify that today was an absence as she had already told me that when I called her this morning. Her call has only resulted in making me even more anxious.

I am now in tears and can’t shake the sick feeling in my stomach.

Without my income we will lose our house, things are tight enough at the moment.

That’s weird - I replied earlier, but it’s not there.

Tbh, other than suggest you to talk to someone at the CAB, Access to Work or to an employment lawyer, I can’t really advise as I don’t know very much about this sort of thing. You may well get better advice if you post on Everyday Living - a lot more people on there with experience of this sort of thing.

Good luck!

Karen x