I know it’s different for men and women. However, there are similarities. None of us want to be taught to self catheterise. It involves getting a bit too personal with a continence nurse. It’s embarrassing at first.
But you have to remember that the nurses have seen loads of peoples ‘bits’ and will take your understandable shyness as the norm.
As far as I understand it, self catheterisation for men is easier in some respects and harder in others. Easier because you can see where you’re pointing the catheter, but harder because you have a point at which you generally have to push past - or the prostate.
My fingers are good in some ways and rubbish in others. Sensitivity is helpful with catheterisation, but not essential. To be honest, all you can do is try ISC.
As a man, you do have options, many men use the ‘sheath’ type of catheter. You could ask your continence nurse about this, especially if you’ve tried ISC and found it difficult.
Opening up on here is a good start to being open, honest and unembarrassed about the entire issue.
Keep in mind that there are many different types of intermittent catheter, if you find one too stiff or another too flexible, you can ask for a trial of lots of others.
One thing I was unaware of when I began ISC was that my supplies of catheters will come from a delivery company. They have many customer service staff who are knowledgeable about all types of product and can advise you with regard to what help you need.
Best of luck.