I have only recently joined this forum. So I apologise if I haven’t done this properly,
I was instructed by occy health to look on this web sight & seek support! I’m off sick at the moment from work & I’m confused if I want to go back now.
I was told 2 years ago that I have RRMS. And I work in a strange environment. I work at sea, on a ship, in a male dominated environment. I spent the last two years onboard, only telling the bare minimum people. And. 2 months ago it all crumbled, I don’t think I’ve not come to terms with my diagnosis ( like occy health think). As a female working at sea, you had to always be stronger, so you didn’t have people saying your shite cuz ur a female. Yes, in this day and age, it’s still not a “normal” female career path. But you work harder, to prove you should be there, when I got told I had MS, I felt it was another hurdle to overcome. So ya, I didn’t want my diagnosis all over the ship I work on.
So my shore boss was onboard, and firstly told people working under me, that I had a restricted medical, which originally upset me. But when I highlighted this to him, and how our medicals are meant to be confidential, I was informed I was “unemployable” with the medical I had. The following day, I was told again I was unemployable. I was working a rank up, this trip & there was a permanent position available. I retracted my application for this role, as I felt, what was the point as I’m “unemployable”. ( and I have stood in for this rank many times the past 5 yrs)
Then my holidays after that trip, my balance is off, my eyes are playing up my hand is numb, and I just feel like I’m falling apart. And nearly 2 months later, there still not right. Yes, I know I’m still stressed out from what was said. I think mainly cuz he said what I thought when I was diagnosed. So it was like someone said what I was originally fearing.
I don’t know If i try and pull myself together, get my thick skin back,and go back to a job I really ( past tense) enjoyed. But I’ve now the fear of every one knowing I have MS. I’m just so confused & upset.
Thankfully I’ve been to my neuro and he reckons it’s not a relapse, as I’ve had these symptoms before. ( but not all at once).