Hi. Here’s another thing which feels weird:- My elderly mother was admitted to hospital yesterday with a chest infection… So I spent hours and hours there, fortunately with my husband. She had to have loads of tests before being prescribed an antibiotic , oxygen treatment, and observation. Fortunately it’s our local hospital; she’s been there quite a few times so I know the drill. It’s the time waiting in A & E first which is a trial, especially for elderly people, who really need to have someone (family or friend) with the, and often don’t. It’s exhausting for everyone.
For the first time in my experience, I used the ‘I have MS’ label there on two occasions. Firstly when the loo was occupied and I asked where another one was, saying I needed one nearby as 'I have MS and need it urgently. That worked as I was able to go to one that was more conveniently situated. Secondly, when my mother needed to get off the trolley on to a commode. It’s always difficult to get the help with this sort of thing from the busy A & E staff, which is why as a patient you need someone with you who is prepared to be quite pushy, IMO. I asked a staff nurse, who said ‘well, why can’t you help her?’ to which I replied that I have MS and can’t lift her. I used to say on these occasions, before dx, that I have ‘back trouble and can’t lift or push wheelchairs’, which is absolutely true, but I sometimes felt that I was being looked at as if I was just being lazy/couldn’t be bothered. When you mention the MS word no-one is going to challenge that.
It felt strange though, as I don’t have any visible signs of MS. I suppose this is one of the things that you get used too!
Louise x