Ah well, saying he wouldn’t support you in finding work is not quite as strongly worded as saying you can’t, or mustn’t.
It still leaves the final decision up to you, but I can understand him saying he will not actively support something he doesn’t personally believe is in your best interests. It puts him in a bit of a dilemma, doesn’t it, as he might end up having to lie. If a prospective employer requests a medical report, how can he write: “This person is fit for work, and I support it”, if that’s not his opinion? The best he could do would be to say he doesn’t wish to comment, but then they’ll read between the lines anyway, and wonder why he’s so reticent.
I don’t think many employers will ask for medical reports anyway, and if they do, it can only go ahead with your consent, but you would obviously know not to point them in the direction of your neuro, because he’s not going to say: “Yes, I fully endorse this”.
Anyway, all this is by-the-by. I’m still not convinced your motives for considering the world of work are the right ones, because it sounds to me as if the main reason is bullying - basically, you’d be handing control of your life to the bullies. If they say: “Jump!”, you say: “How high?” These are not well-meaning friends and family, urging you to better yourself, but people you admit are “against you”, so why would you base major life decisions on anything they have to say?
It sounds as if you have a nice volunteering job, which is far from worthless - I’m sure these places couldn’t keep running without an army of volunteers. How dare anyone say it’s lazy, pointless, or worthless? You’re giving time and effort for free, which I’m sure is more than they do. Try to put some distance between them and you - they’re not your pals. If they pump for information, don’t give it, or even better, make sure it’s always positive. “Oh yes, it’s been really busy and interesting at the National Trust this year, and it’s working out really well.” Don’t give them stuff they can use against you, like: “No change, really; I’m still living on benefits.”
It’s not fibbing, but it’s promoting your version of events - not the one they’re trying to stick on you. Your line to them will never be that you feel bored or worthless - it will always be how rewarding your work is, and how glad you are to have this amazing opportunity to get involved. It doesn’t matter if, secretly, you don’t always feel that way - the key thing is, you don’t tell them that.
Tina
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