Hello, I am a newbie
I was told in July 2011 that I had suffered a stroke and then in October 2011 I had a terrible flu-like virus which left me emotionally drained and extremely fatigued. I could barely use my legs and was terribly low. After a third relapse I have now been informed that I have RRMS. I have had 19.5 days off work since November 2012 and my employers recently had a formal attendance meeting with me. I was lucky enough to be able to take a member of my union in with me (as I am a secretary at a secondary school) and he basically told them that they had thin or little grounds for proceeding. Two days after that meeting my boss called me into a second meeting and told me that my work wasn’t up to scratch and that I wasn’t producing the quality of work expected of me. This was the first I had been told of this! Coincidence??? Yes I thought so too.
I went to an occupational health meeting in June this year and told the lady there that I get terribly fatigued and I FELT that I was being bullied in the workplace. She submitted her report stating only 2 of the 19.5 days I have had off and my employers are not very happy with me about the statement that ‘I feel I am being bullied and pressurised in the workplace’ stating that being bullied in the workplace is a very serious allegation’ (I have the amendments I submitted to the OHU to prove what was said and how many days I admitted to having off and for what reason). I did not allege that I was being bullied and certainly mentioned no names, I merely stated that this was how I felt. This all happened last Thursday and I have been off work with stress and terribly fatigued ever since. I saw my GP last Friday who basically said I needed to have complete rest and take anti-depressants (as I broke down in his surgery saying I couldn’t cope anymore with the pressures and the insinuations - plus I am trying to come to terms with the fact that I have this crappy illness and will progressively get worse). My GP was concerned that the stress I was under would cause another relapse.
Is anyone else experiencing similar problems with their employers? Or experienced it and has any advice for me? I don’t really want to leave my job as I have been working there for 10 years but I don’t feel strong enough to fight anymore. I am dealing with my own health problems on a daily basis and I fear that if I don’t go back I will only get grief and if I do go back I will get grief. I can’t win either way.
Help, kind regards